DAY 74 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, its mommy's birhday today (27th June). Would like to wish her a Happy Birthday and I hope the both of you had a nice celebration together. God bless you both.

(first posted on Facebook, 27 Jun 2010)

DAY 73 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Another parent victimised by Parental Alienation, and was unable to see his beautiful daughter since 2006. Here's a lovely video made by her Papi (Daddy) for her. God help us all...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TQO6nIwr-j0

(first posted on Facebook, 26 Jun 2010)

DAY 72 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, remember how I was asked to dance like Michael Jackson as a forfeit for losing a game we played at the family centre last year? I certainly can't move like him but I did try to do some moonwalking, lol. Its been exactly a year since MJ left us, here's a video of the king of pop doing what he does best.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_vFVlvi-P9w

(first posted on Facebook, 25 Jun 2010)

DAY 71 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

I am sure you recognise this tricycle/bicycle. You grew too big for it and I had to give it away at the dumping station below our flat. Your had your first ride at the badminton court near our house, and mommy and I were cheering you on as you eagerly rode on this tricycle. Those days were fun : )

(first posted on Facebook, 24 Jun 2010)

DAY 70 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, remember the playground opposite the library where we would go and play on the swing? They have already renovated the whole place and it looks newer and bigger now.
Here's a picture of you pushing the swing for a boy we met during one of our last trips there 2 years ago. His name is Benjamin, I can still recall how much he loves playing with us : )
I miss those times we had, son.. I hope we can go there again soon : )

(first posted on Facebook, 23 Jun 2010)

DAY 69 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

I was once again blessed to know another parent who displays absolute love and determination in his fight for his 2 beautiful boys. Here is a poem which he wrote specially for them.

Supermens Dad..

My sons fly by,
With arms spread wide..
No fear of speed or pain.
There is no care,
For bumps ahead
Nor storm clouds filled with rain..
They may Fall....
And scrape a knee
Or even break a arm (which we all did a year apart)
But outside hurt will mend and grow..
Tis no cause for great alarm...
Its inside pain and tortured souls
That grip my heart with dread..
For as their Dad, its my job,
To prepare them for whats ahead...
Grief and sorrow, Love and joy
Are roads that they may choose..
My chance to teach and mold is now..
A time that I cannot lose...
They are growing strong-Invincible?
their choices good or bad,
Help me to know, at least for now..
Even my lil supermen need a Dad.....
Dad Loves you Caleb and Hayden...

God bless you and your boys, Mr VandeZande.
I pray for your day of reunion to come soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 22 Jun 2010)

DAY 68 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, I have requested for permission from the Family Court to take you and mommy for a trip to Universal Studios Singapore, I am sure both of you will enjoy yourselves there. Now I just pray hard that my request will not be rejected by whichever party..

You deserve to spend good quality time with both your parents, those are your basic rights that daddy is fighting for.

(first posted on Facebook, 21 Jun 2010)

DAY 67 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

It had been a harsh Father's Day for me & many daddys deprived of our children by Family Courts. We target parents are often hit so badly that we often feel like giving up... But before you decide to do that, take 3 mins to watch this video.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qSAXYNIasxk

After that, tell me again if you still have any compelling reasons to give up fighting for your own children, who are God's blessings to you.

(Thanks to Malcolm Crawford for sharing this video)

(first posted on Facebook, 20 Jun 2010)

DAY 66 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

I have a touching song here that I wish to share with all my friends on Facebook, I have even translated its lyrics to English below for some of you : )

Many thanks to my good friend Nathan for sharing this song with me.
A Happy Fathers day to all.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TNzWkGk4yzw

MY DAD ( by Christopher Wong )

In the past, I’ve always wondered why dad is so thin,
and why is our house so rundown..
My classmates have things that embarrassingly, only I do not have..
and even my dad’s car is so old..

We lived in such a very small place for a family of six,
that sometimes I'd rather study in the kitchen for my exams
and I'd sleep in the hall after watching the variety show on TV

(Chrous)
*Later on, Later on, at last I had achieved freedom,
and I work hard to achieve much success.

Later on, Later on, I thought I had everything in life
until the moment that I held my child’s hand…

I’d always remember…

When I was little, the first time that I let go of dad’s hands,
it was my first day of school, and I could not stop crying when dad walked away.

And many years later, the last time that I let go of his hands,
it was by his deathbed, watching him manage a smile, I was overcome with guilt..*

(Repeat Chorus*)

I’d always remember my dad was very good in calligraphy,
And he is one who would always acknowledge his own mistakes.
I have never sung a song for my dad,
but I know he is familiar with the song “What do you want to achieve in life?”…

My dad…..is the richest person who has everything in life.

(first posted on Facebook, 19 Jun 2010)

DAY 65 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Here is another poem written by a parent Julia Greer Moreno for her alienated children, Julianna and Joshua. She is also the founder of the Joshua Rose Foundation, which she started it in honor of her children.

Julia, I pray that God will reunite you and your children soon.

ALWAYS IN MY HEART
I think of you in the morning light
I think of you in the darkness of night
I miss you in the morning
I miss you at night
I miss not being able to hold you tight
I wish we could be with each other
No matter what, I will always love you like no other

I think of you in springtime when flowers are blooming
I think of you in winter, when storm clouds are looming
I think of you in fall, when the leaves touch the ground
I think of you in summer, when everyone’s splashing around
I think of you at Easter when Christ rose again
I think of you on Valentine’s day

Let the truth of truths set you free
Maybe then you can clearly see
You were never abandoned
Or left behind
Those who have deceived you
Have placed lies in your mind

I’ll never give up
I’ll never walk away
When you are ready to come home
With me, you’ll always have a place to stay
There are many more kids just like you
Who have people who supposedly love them lying to them too

For this reason, my fight shall cease to stop
“For justice for all” shall I shout from the roof top
For you, for me, for sisters and brothers
For Dads, and Mom’s, Father’s and Mother’s
We may be separated by miles apart
But the bond between us is
Always in my heart

(first posted on Facebook, 18 Jun 2010)

DAY 64 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

My FB friend just shared this poem with me and it says exactly how I feel. I would also like to share it with any parents out there without custody or Care & Control of your children.
We all certainly have not forgotten our children, and we shall all look forward to the day that we will be reunited with them.
God will make things right for us all.

MY LOST LOVE, MY LOST CHILD (© Garrett W. Wheeler)
I wonder what you’re doing
and how your living life
What new things did you learn today
and how did you sleep last night
Did you feel raindrops on your face
or sunshine in your eye
Of all the questions left uknown
the biggest one is why
Why can’t we be together
Why can’t I watch you grow
Why can’t I guide you through this world
This I just don’t know
But I promise we’ll be together
no matter how long it seems
Just know your always in my heart
and always in my dreams

(Thanks to Vicki Joan Gaudet for sharing this)

(first posted on Facebook, 17 Jun 2010)

DAY 63 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Just want to share this video with all the fathers out there. It was produced for the Dads for Life movement by the National Family Council and Fathers Action Network to encourage fathers in Singapore to be more involved in their children's lives.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FS3S4vtlg4

One child in the video said this, "Its not fair to say that I am just close to my mother or father. I'd rather be close with both of them. Without one of them, its like kind of, half a heart. Whenever both of them are together, it motivates me to love them even more."

Always be there for your children. No matter what obstacles are in your way.

(first posted on Facebook, 16 Jun 2010)

DAY 62 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT WITHOUT ANY VALID REASONS) :

Adriel, this was one of the main YouTube videos that inspired me to make a video for you. It was made by uncle Rick from USA for his 2 boys, Josh and Nick.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qsqfiuD06_A

Like daddy, uncle Rick had been forcefully separated from his 2 sons, and he had been cut off from their lives for 11 years since 1999. I was told that Josh, his oldest boy, just graduated from High School recently.

Many will not understand what we are going through simply because they have not lived such pain and horror. Regardless of what others may think or say, nothing will make me give up on you.

Rick and Barb, if you guys are reading this, I salute you and my heart goes out to you and your loved ones. Keep fighting, God will make things right for us soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 15 Jun 2010)

DAY 61 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT WITHOUT ANY VALID REASONS) :

Son, since you were a baby, your charming smile and chuckle had been brightening me and mommy's lives every single day.
I know this because even now, just by looking at this photo of yours, I am ready to face a brand new day already! : )

(first posted on Facebook, 14 Jun 2010)

DAY 60 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT WITHOUT ANY VALID REASONS) :

I am sure you remember where this picture was taken, its your favourite spot at the Botanic Garden where the fishes, turtles and the 2 swans are. Me and mommy would always prepare a big loaf of bread for you so that you could have a wonderful time there feeding the animals by the pond. I remember I always had to put my arms around your waist to prevent you from moving too close to the edge of the pond in your excitement.
We had many activities at the Botanic Garden, but feeding was definitely your favourite : )

(first posted on Facebook, 13 Jun 2010)

DAY 59 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT WITHOUT ANY VALID REASONS) :

The World Cup fever is on again. I remember you were never allowed to watch soccer when you were young, the only time you had a chance to catch glimpses of a match with daddy was when you were 4 years old, and it was the quarter-final game between S.Korea and Italy in 2002. You were sitting on my lap and we were watching the game with many other residents below our flat on the big screen set up by the town council.

When S.Korea won the game, the crowd was cheering very loudly and I remember you held my hand very tightly as you appeared shocked and amazed at what the commotion was all about. I smiled and gave you a hug, and told you not to worry as the people were just celebrating. Then I kissed your forehead and carried you home as it was almost bedtime.

Like the S.Koreans, that was a moment I will always treasure and will never forget for the rest of my life.

(first posted on Facebook, 12 Jun 2010)

DAY 58 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Toy Story 3 is coming to the theatres. I miss the times when I would take u & mommy to watch animated movies.

Since the Family Court restricted our access to only 1 hr per wk at their "jail-like" centre (and now even cut me off from u), I had not been able to take u to the theatres ever since.

I missed out on all these movies as I do not wish to watch any of them without u.....Wall-E, Madagascar 2, Ice Age 3, UP, Shrek 4, and now Toy Story 3.

Son, I assure you once again that I will keep fighting for our rights to be together. I pray that we will be able to watch a movie together very soon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=02SIpnXqS3U&feature=channel

(first posted on Facebook, 11 Jun 2010)

DAY 57 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Here's a photo of you in your robot costume during the day of your performance. Daddy actually needs a lot of strength to put up this photo, look at your adorable face, and hold back my tears..

(first posted on Facebook, 10 Jun 2010)

DAY 56 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, this is the program sheet of your 2nd concert performance when you were in K1 at the age of 5. On that day you were dressed up in silver costume and wearing a silver "helmet" as a robot. And needless to say, your robotic dance performance was totally awesome! : )

(first posted on Facebook, 9 Jun 2010)

DAY 55 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, me and mommy were so proud of you when you did your first concert performance during your kindergarten days. I remember you were in Act 5, dressed up in red as an ant, and dancing and holding a big "sugar cube" in your hands. You were a little shy to look at the audience, but you were irresistably adorable on stage : )

(first posted on Facebook, 8 Jun 2010)

DAY 54 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, this is a photo of a boy name Ashley. He has not seen his daddy since Christmas Day 2008. His daddy is Patrick Lyons, and this photo was taken in his office when Ashley thought it was hilarious to typex over his work during the fun days that they had together.

Somehow the photo reminds me of you when you were younger, Adriel...
You had the same adorable forehead and smile just like Ashley : )

It really breaks my heart when I look at how cute and innocent Ashley is in the photo, and at the same time I think about thow painful it must have been for him and his daddy to be separated...

Patrcik, if you are reading this, my heart and prayers go out to you and Ashley.
Keep strong and never give up.

(first posted on Facebook, 7 Jun 2010)

DAY 53 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

I still keep the first bible that you and mommy got for me, it is special to me because it has your star sticker on it - you were only 2 years and 10 months when you wrote on it : )

You used to enjoy singing this verse from a kids gospel song: “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.” - Galatians 5: 22-23

I'll never forget this was your favorite verse, that is why I specailly included it in my YouTube video for you.

God bless you, son, you are always in my prayers...

(first posted on Facebook, 6 Jun 2010)

DAY 52 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, I am sure you recognise this place in the photo, right? : )
You love to play with these slides at the Rasa Sentosa Resort, our stay there were always full of fun. I remember me and mommy even organised a birthday party there for you, and you really had a crazy time that day playing your heart out with all your classmates : ))

(first posted on Facebook, 5 Jun 2010)

DAY 51 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, this is the Nintendo DS Lite that I got for your birthday last year but you could not accept it due to obvious reasons we all know...

I actually brought this gift to your school twice to try to pass it to you. On one occasion, during your school Carnival on 14th Nov 2009, I was asked by your teacher to stay away from your games stall even though it was supposed to be a public event. She even threatened to call for the security guards if I did not do as she said.

I felt really insulted, but for you I put up with the humilation and did as she said. Nevertheless I still managed to catch glimspes of you from a distance and I am glad to see that you had a good time at the carnival. : ))

(first posted on Facebook, 4 Jun 2010)

DAY 50 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, I really wish I could take you to the Double Helix Bridge, which was opened slightly more than a month ago.
I know you would have loved it there...

(first posted on Facebook, 3 Jun 2010)

DAY 49 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, a loving mother from USA, Peggy Malecki, told me she will be going up to orange county to see her two children, and she is going to tell them she loves them and always has, and that she wishes they were with her.

She may end up in jail fo...r trying to see her children but she told me she has no regrets, because she is being a parent to them and she believes this is something she has to do.

There are many parents with sad stories of their children, and very often we can’t help but shed tears for one another’s pain. But these tears are not signs of weakess. They are catalyst that make us stronger and more determined to battle against the injustice for all of you.

(first posted on Facebook, 2 Jun 2010)

DAY 48 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, the June school holidays are here, and I really envy other parents who are able to spend time with their children and have activities together. Its reallly a tough time for me and other deprived parents to go through. Though I have been unfairly forbidded by the Family Court from being with you, I find comfort in knowing many local and overseas friends on Facebook who have been extremely kind and supportive towards my struggles to be with you. That keeps me going, and I will remain strong till the day we meet again, son.

(first posted on Facebook, 1 Jun 2010)

DAY 47 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, here's a note from you to "inform" me and mommy of the program schedule for my birthday party 5 years ago.

These are the little things from you that I will always treasure with me...

(first posted on Facebook, 31 May 2010)