Our 46th access – Denied (26th March 2011) :

This news article (just months ago) may not be the happiest thing to see, but at least Parental Alienation was given some much needed media attention and awareness islandwide in Singapore.
And after all, its not everyday that me & Adriel get a chance to share the same page with a superstar like Jay Chou (The Green Hornet) : )

(First posted on Facebook, 26th March 2011)

Our 45th access – Denied (25th March 2011) :

A word of prayer for the hundreds/thousands of Singapore grandparents (and millions others worldwide) who cannot be with their grandchildren as a result of Parental Alienation continuing to be dominant in our society.
The saddest thing is that most of these grandparents may not ever get a chance to see their own grandchildren again... not even at their deathbed.
In many cases, the alienated children are also forbidded (by the alienating parents) to attend their grandparents' funeral..

I do not know if the authorities' ever feel anything for such sad events. They can organise all the "Grandparents Day" events they want, but they are obviously either forgetting or omitting a big group of old folks out there who need help more than anything else in the world to connect with their own grandchildren. God help us all..

(First posted on Facebook, 25th March 2011)

Our 44th access – Denied (19th March 2011) :

Adriel, this was taken during your birthday celebration some years ago. You are easily the best looking boy to me, my son : )

(First posted on Facebook, 19th March 2011)

Our 43rd access – Denied (18th March 2011) :

This letter from an alienated child of a target parent (who is my FB friend) reminds me of something similar that happened to me 3 years ago.
I know of other target parents from Singapore also receiving such "notices" from their children's principal or the teacher out of the blue. I wonder what is MOE's (Ministry Of Education) stand on such matters.

(First posted on Facebook, 18th March 2011)

Our 42nd access – Denied (12th March 2011) :

This pic was taken many years ago when u went back to visit your kindergarten, and you were too big for the toy structures there, lol.
Just want to let you know that daddy is praying for you, and also everyone who has been taking care of you.

(First posted on Facebook, 12th March 2011)

Our 41st access – Denied (11th March 2011) :

Just met another 2 parents who were alienated from their children, it broke my heart to hear their stories.. This worldwide problem of PA is worsening everyday, with nothing effective being done to keep families connected.

To the 2 parents, & anyone out there fighting to be with your children : Keep the love alive, may God help us all.

(First posted on Facebook, 11th March 2011)

Our 40th access – Denied (5th March 2011) :

Recently, some friends of mine went for this animation movie but I did not join them, I guess it still hurts to sit through animation movies without being reminded of you..
I am not sure if such feelings are unhealthy and need to be overcome, but I know I will... some day soon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_L_5vrHoWQ

God bless you, Adriel, daddy is still praying for you.

(First posted on Facebook, 5th March 2011)

Our 39th access – Denied (4th March 2011) :

Adriel, here's another old photo of you that I found. I am still missing you badly but no worries, daddy is doing fine, and many are praying for our reunion. Keep the faith son, I know God will see us through.

(First posted on Facebook, 4th March 2011)

Our 38th access – Denied (26th February 2011) :

Every year, thousands of SINGAPORE children are also being emotionally affected and deprived of Adequate & Well-Deserved time with one of their parents. And the numbers have been accumulating for many years now. What have our authorities done to address this issue effectively?

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DtiB3V4lP18

(Thanks to Dawn Kelly for this video, you are in our prayers)

(First posted on Facebook, 26th February 2011)

Our 37th access – Denied (25th February 2011) :

Daddy met up with a friend today who related to me how he took his young daughter for a day of fun at the zoo, and it reminded me of the good times we spent there together when you were younger. So I came home, hunted high and low, and was so glad to find this precious photo... I really miss you, son.

(First posted on Facebook, 25th February 2011)

Our 36th access – Denied (19th February 2011) :

Adriel, I carry this photo with me all the time, I can't miss it whenever I use my wallet everyday... Though it can be hard sometimes to look at the photo, I am sure many other alienated parents do the same. It reminds us of just how much you all mean to us, and why we should never give up the pursue to be with you.

(First posted on Facebook, 19th February 2011)

Our 35th access – Denied (18th February 2011) :

Adriel, here is the song with lyrics that mean so much to daddy and many other parents. It is like a Parental Alienation theme song, it expresses our feelings as alienated parents towards all of you... We will be there for all of you till the end, and I pray for God to give us the strength..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sG0HsGHrao

(First posted on Facebook, 18th February 2011)

Our 34th access – Denied (12th February 2011) :

Adriel, on this international Parental Alienation calendar created by daddy's FB friend (auntie Heather Graner), it has all the alienated childrens' names printed on the dates of their birthday. As you can see on this picture, your name is on 5th November, and its a Saturday. I pray that we can spend that day together, and I pray the same for all the other alienated children & parents.

(First posted on Facebook, 12th February 2011)

Our 33rd access – Denied (11th February 2011) :

Adriel, we are featured in the month February 2012 of this international Parental Alienation calendar that daddy's facebook friends have created to raise worldwide awareness of this issue that we are all going through. I pray to God that some day we will all be able to create a "Reunifications of Children & Parents" calendar : )

(First posted on Facebook, 11th February 2011)

Our 32nd access – Denied (5th February 2011) :

Adriel, here's a photo of your cousins, Koa (right) and Jya (left), with Shevaun, the daughter of uncle Sean. This photo was taken 2 months ago during uncle Shane's wedding. I pray to God that someday you will be allowed to meet your cousins and hang out together with them : )

(First posted on Facebook, 5th February 2011)

Our 31st access – Denied (4th February 2011) :

Happy Chinese New Year to you, Adriel ! : ) Daddy wanted to hand the red packet to you personally but could not do so despite my weekly efforts to contact mommy and also to look you up at your house on some occasions. Anyway, its the beginning of a new year and a fresh start for all of us.... I pray for God's hand of protection over you and also those who are taking care of you, let their hearts be softened and be submissive to God's will.

(First posted on Facebook, 4th February 2011)

Our 30th access – Denied (29th January 2011) :

Adriel, though daddy is still being deprived from access time with you, I was happy to learn that one of my FB friends, uncle Chris Sims from UK, is at last making contact with his alienated children a few days ago. This picture speaks a thousand words and I can really sense their joy from the smiles on their faces. And even though they have to wait another 6 months to see one another again, it was a special day that all of them will never forget... God is good all the time. Daddy has faith that He will reunite all the parents and children one day : )

(First posted on Facebook, 29th January 2011)

Our 29th access – Denied (28th January 2011) :

Adriel, remember how you love "Kung Fu Panda" when we watched it together with mommy almost 2 years ago? Now "King Fu Panda 2" is coming, I will do anything in the world just to get a chance to take you to the movies again. God bless you my son, our day of reunification is drawing closer..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJ3PwBI9HMA

(First posted on Facebook, 28th January 2011)

Our 28th access – Denied (22nd January 2011) :

A video depicting the kind of pain we go through as rejected parents. It also gives valuable tips on how to respond to your alienated children and the common mistakes to avoid. Unless under extreme situations, NEVER ever give up on your pursue for your children.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Puy0hjtedU

(First posted on Facebook, 22nd January 2011)

Our 27th access – Denied (21st January 2011) :

“Family institution is fundamental to any country... Fall and the country will fall... Its the building blocks of life and society.” - Mus Karimy

(First posted on Facebook, 21st January 2011)

Our 26th access – Denied (15th January 2011) :

Ls Faun Witt - “Even if they ask the child, the child may be so swayed against the parent from hearing certain messages about the targeted parent that they may THINK they don't want to see that parent. I can teach my children to hate most anything I want. They trust me to do what is right for them so they will side with me if I want them to hate.”

(First posted on Facebook, 15th January 2011)

Our 25th access – Denied (14th January 2011) :

Bruce Shollenberger – “At some later juncture the system places to much emphasis on the children's choice. Of course, an alienated child does not want to upset the alienating parent. The child is fueled with fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Things are easily turned around in a child's mind allowing the selfish and greedy to use them as a weapon against their own best interests. Very very sick.”

(First posted on Facebook, 14th January 2011)

Our 24th access – Denied (8th January 2011) :

Many of us alienated parents can only dream of carrying our children the way Dr Vivian Balakrishnan did in this video with his son.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNHt6d1HbuU

(First posted on Facebook, 8th January 2011)

Our 23rd access – Denied (7th January 2011) :

"Men should be given fair access to their children by ex-wives. Ex-wives should not use access to children as a bargaining chip for collection of maintenance. I think as adults we should all recognize that children have a right to both parents, and will almost always benefit from access to both parents. And no matter how ugly the dispute between the adults is, we should not make our children hostage or bargaining chips. I'd like to point out that breaches in access orders are punishable as a contempt of court, which may lead to a fine or imprisonment. Just as we expect the men to pay maintenance arrears, women should also comply fully with access orders issued by the court."

- Dr Vivian Balakrishnan, Singapore’s Minister for Community Development, Youth and Sports.(on his closing Speech for the Womens Charter Amendment)

(First posted on Facebook, 7th January 2011)

Our 22nd access – Denied (1st January 2011) :

Here's a very sweet gesture from my FB friend Steve Monk-Dalton: During the recent activity of parents lighting up lanterns for their alienated children, Steve has lighted this one for me with my son's name on it. Thank you so much, Steve, that really means a lot to me..
2011 is here, we should waste no time to rise up for our children and grant them back their well-deserved rights to enjoy the love & presence of both parents in their lives. A change is gonna come, its time to end all the sorrows and heartbreaks.
Adriel, daddy will be coming for you - from all directions.

(First posted on Facebook, 1st January 2011)

Our 21st access – Denied (31st December 2010) :

Adriel, here's a cute picture of both of us as panda bears, drawn by one of daddy's Facebook friends. I really like it very much because it represents the happy moments we have together.... and I have faith this day will come again soon, because we have God almighty on our side (Romans 8:31)

(First posted on Facebook, 31st December 2010)

Our 20th access – Denied (25th December 2010) :

It was a lonely Christmas without my son. Though I did not get the best Christmas gift (to be with Adriel), I thank God for the newspaper article was published on Christmas Eve as it has helped to raise public awareness on this injustice on many parents and innocent children.

2010 has been a tough year for many of us target parents, but we are blessed to have so many people here on FB praying for us & cheering us on. I believe God put us through these trials for a reason; besides fighting to be with our children, we have the responsibility to highlight this Parental Alienation issue to the masses. It is an emotional child abuse to use children as pawns to deprive them of one of their parents, no child should be made to go through this mental torture.

Lets continue to fight against this child abuse in 2011, our children deserve better

(First posted on Facebook, 25th December 2010)

Our 19th access – Denied (24th December 2010) :

Adriel, Christmas is here again, & daddy must admit its tough for me & many other parents who can't be with their children. But today I overheard this song below with the words “There was always Christmas time, JESUS came to stay” & I was reminded of the true meaning of the season: Jesus is the way, & we can do all things through Him!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Hbwa00VEMc&feature=related

Love & Miss u, Merry Christmas!

(First posted on Facebook, 24th December 2010)

Our 18th access – Denied (18th December 2010) :

Adriel, u are a kind boy with a gentle soul, & daddy will always remember Galatians 5:22-23 is one of yr fav Bible verses. That is also why I put it at the end of this video I made for u : )
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness & self-control. Against such things there is no law” - Galatians 5:22-23

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JiQR5rVboQ

(First posted on Facebook, 18th December 2010)

Our 17th access – Denied (17th December 2010) :

Adriel, these new animated movies always remind me of you as I remember how much fun we had watching Kungfu Panda, Madagascar, Chicken Little, Horton The Elephant, Over The Hedge etc together with mommy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALhY-jeXC50&feature=related

I pray that God will watch over you everyday, and also for the hearts of those to be softened so that we will see each other again soon. I miss you badly son..

(First posted on Facebook, 17th December 2010)

Our 16th access – Denied (11th December 2010) :

Adriel, though we have been deprived of access and contacts for many weeks, daddy has not given up trying to reach you.

Like all alienated children, I know you have been compelled and influenced to stop displaying any affection for daddy and all my relatives. But I have never stopped praying for hearts to be softened.. and rest assured that daddy will always be here for you.

I thank God for friends who are praying for us and cheering us on here on Facebook. And I know they would love to have you here with us one day, son : )

(First posted on Facebook, 11th December 2010)

Our 15th access – Denied (10th December 2010) :

Adriel, in about 2 weeks Christmas will be here. It is a time for giving and sharing but daddy knows I will once again be denied from seeing you. It will be a 3rd Christmas without you but that will not deter me from praying and keeping the faith. We have a God who hears our cries and He will answer our prayers. I love and miss you very much, son... Merry Christmas : )

(First posted on Facebook, 10th December 2010)

Our 14th access – Denied (4th December 2010) :

Adriel, besides Road Runner, daddy remembers Tom and Jerry is also one of your favourite cartoons when you were younger, as well as Popeye and Tweety Bird.
I miss watching them on TV together with you...

(First posted on Facebook, 4th December 2010)

Our 13th access – Denied (3rd December 2010) :

Here's a video made by another parent who had also been deprived of his child. Please join me and pray for these parents all around the world who have been longing to see their children but have been unable to do so. God hears our cries..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6OVKIXMQP4

(First posted on Facebook, 3rd December 2010)

Our 12th access – Denied (27th November 2010) :

Adriel, daddy had a dream about you again last night. I dreamed that I was in your school and I was happy that you did not avoid me. But you were worried about the trouble you will get into if you are seen responding to me. I gave you a big hug and assured you that things will be all right, and there is absolutely nothing wrong for a dad and son to spend time together as God has intended.
Love is from God, and our love will conquer all : )

(First posted on Facebook, 27 November 2010)

Our 11th access – Denied (26th November 2010) :

Congrats on your PSLE results Adriel, daddy is so proud of you! I had wanted to take you out for a celebration, but once again I could not reach you. Daddy will do everything within my means to reunite us again, regardless of how others might think or say otherwise. You deserve your daddy in your life like any other child.
Love and miss you very much, son : )

(First posted on Facebook, 26 November 2010)

Our 10th access – Denied (20th November 2010) :

A target parent once wrote : “When alienators use your child as a pawn to deprive you, it affects you and you struggle to survive, like how you gasp for air when out of breath. Your 'struggling' actions will then be misintepreted by others as you are ‘stubbornly insisting in your ways’ to see your child, and that your ‘aggressiveness are only making things worse’. And when you hear well-meaning people asking you to ‘let it go, for the sake of your child’, you know the alienators have achieved their goals of indirectly using others to discourage you and undermine your parenting role. Alienators are being given the empowerment to cause severe damage to the relationships with your child, as well as to brainwash and influence ANYONE to make you give up, including the courts and those around you.”

(First posted on Facebook, 20 November 2010)

Our 9th access – Denied (19th November 2010) :

Otilia Ayala (a FB friend) : “I just woke up from a dream, about Adriel your son, we were traveling, and I gave him a big hug and told him ‘This is from your dad, he loves u’, He said ‘I know’ and started to cry..
In this dream I was a worker transporting kids. I asked your son what he wanted to drink? He said milk in a bottle. A dream I needed to tell u.
As a native american we believe dreams are visions & messages from God. I will pray that God moves the hearts of the workers in your case. God bless u and Adriel."

(First posted on Facebook, 19 November 2010)

Our 8th access – Denied (13th November 2010)

"The only way for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke

(First posted on Facebook, 13 November 2010)

Our 7th access – Denied (12th November 2010)

"The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress.” ~ Frederick Douglass

(First posted on Facebook, 12 November 2010)

Our 6th access – Denied (6th November 2010)

Adriel, you may not be aware now, but soon you'll know we are really blessed to have so many people all around the world and in Singapore supporting us and praying for us to be together again.
I hope the authorities will also give us their much needed support.

(first posted on Facebook, 6 November 2010)

Our 5th access – Denied (5th November 2010)

Happy Birthday to you, Adriel. I am sorry we could not spend time together. Daddy did everything I can to reach out to you on your special day, and I waited for many hours for you to return home, but you were nowhere to be found..

No one can stop me from being a dad to you. I promise you that the day we go out together again will be a day filled with so much fun, like a belated birthday celebration that you will never forget. Many of daddy's friends here on FB are also wishing you a happy birthday, you are loved by so many of us, son..

(first posted on Facebook, 5 November 2010)

Happy 12th Birthday Adriel ! : )

Adriel, here's some pictures of you celebrating your previous birthdays with your classmates and friends.

Have a great 12th birthday this year, I hope to see you later, son.

Love,

Dad

Our 4th Access - DENIED (30 Oct 2010)

Adriel, I know you have been put through another tough day. It pains me that you were being treated by others so cruelly and deprived of your freewill to love even your own father..
I vow to go through anything to fight for you...and I mean anything. Whatever happens to daddy, remember that I have never given up on you. You made my life worth living, son, I can never ask God for more.

(first posted on Facebook, 30 October 2010)

Our 3rd Access - DENIED (29 Oct 2010)

Adriel, regardless of what others make you to do or say, daddy will never leave you, son. Anyone trying to separate us will just be wasting their time, they obviously do not understand the intensity of a bond between a father and a son.

(first posted on Facebook, 29 October 2010)

Our 2nd Access - DENIED (23 Oct 2010)

Adriel, today I was once again told that your "answer is still no". Its nothing new to daddy as I have heard it all before in the past, but yet after telling me that, we were still able to play together happily at playgrounds, outdoors and go on many other outings.
I was there during the first 9 years of your life, and daddy knows it when you really mean what you say and when you do not. I would have walked away by myself if you truly have no love for me, I do not even need to be told by anyone. But I am still here, and you know the reason, son.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 October 2010)

Our 1st Access - DENIED (22 Oct 2010)

Adriel, God knows how much I have been longing for this day. But when I was told that you “refuses to see me”, I was devastated, not because of what you said, but because I know that implies that I will not be able to see you. Daddy is aware of what you have been put through, and I know what your actual choice would be had you been given the freewill to choose. Love you always, son..

(first posted on Facebook, 22 October 2010)

DAY 182 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, I know you have been placed in a difficult position forbidding you to display any affections for daddy, but do not fear and do not worry my son, daddy knows you have no part in this entire hating campaign. You are my son and daddy can see your deepest and truest emotions through your eyes. Daddy knows what you really long for, I sense all your purest happiness and joy whenever you spend time with me and mommy. That is what they have robbed from your innocent life, and that is also what I will fight to get back for you. Others may try to tear me away from your life, but rest assured that they will not stand a chance. Your daddy is a fighter and he will keep battling to be with you, regardless of the price he has to pay.

These 6 months have been tough for the both of us, but I thank God for the strength and also for all the awesome friends and support I get from Facebook in my pursue to be with you. And I am afraid I have bad news for those who hope that this 6 months blockage will make me give up and walk away, because I am still here, stronger than before, and battling harder than ever for my son.

I love and miss you very much, my son...we will meet again...soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 13 October 2010)