This blog is created for my son Adriel Cheng. After suspending our access for 6 mths, the Singapore Family Court has granted us weekly access. But even with a Court Order, I still couldn’t see my son who had been brainwashed to reject me. Many Care and Control parents are openly violating Orders granting access to their ex. Most of them use the child as a pawn to do the rejection and the Court rarely make them accountable. Parental Alienation is child abuse, it has to be stopped
Adriel, this is your other cousin Jya whom u never got a chance to meet. He is in nursery school now and I am sure you will like him if you get to see him one day.
Adriel, this is your cousin Koa. You used to play with him when he was a toddler. He is 7 now, and we all pray that some day soon u will get to meet him again.
Unlike most children who will be most willing to pose for a picture, u had been told to turn away from the camera whenever I want to take a photo of u.Nevertheless, its still u in this picture - my one and only dearest son.
This photo reminds me of a sad day some years ago. At Bishan Junction 8, u shocked me with your sudden display of hostility and told me to leave u alone before walking away.I know what you have been put through all these years son....but u can rest assured that I'd always love u with all my heart.
Adriel, we came here in the evening some years ago and stopped by at this fitness park before we head on to cross the Henderson Bridge. It was one of our last outings together.
Adriel, remember the day when I drove you and mummy to this place near Fullerton hotel? I even brought your bicycle along for you to enjoy a nice ride there. Those were memorable times that I will never forget : )
To all alienated parents struggling to be with their children : "Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure - these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart." ~ Steve Jobs (1955 - 2011)
Dedicated to all alienated parents : “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” ~ Steve Jobs (1955-2011)
Adriel, its our 100th time being denied of access. People ask me how I manage to survive this madness & pain, I tell them God's promises and my love for you kept me going.
Here's that special song that Mr Howard Jones himself was very kind enough to allow me to use for my YouTube video for u. I dedicate it to all the alienated parents with the message : Be there for our children, right till the end. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sG0HsGHrao
During one of our last outings together in 2008, you were happily playing with this huge cardboard and sliding down the slope at this Vivo City playground. It was such a precious moment for me to see that child-like joy on your face, son... : )
Adriel, here's a special spot at Ngee Ann City that I will always remember. We used to stand here watch Tom & Jerry on the big screen together all those years ago. Daddy is still missing you, son..
All this father wanted was to see his son, but attempts to visit him every weekend were in vain. The last time he saw his son was in February for half an hour.
"I didn't do anything wrong. From start to finish, I just wanted to see my son. If she had just allowed me to take my son out on weekends, I wouldn't have had to pressure her by going to court."
This video looks at the big business and money motives behind the family law machine; it urges state legislators and others to fix courts, and it proposes a solution that would protect children. This film is a call to action if you care about this grave injustice that must be seen to be believed.
Parental Alienation at its worst....and its happening here in Singapore.
"It was understood by many that the deceased doted on her son. After she was separated from her husband, she became so worried that her husband would get custody of their son that she defied court orders to let him visit Jerlad. She even commented that she would rather drown herself than let her husband ‘take him away’."
A parent doing skydiving to create awareness on Parental Alienation - "a complex kind of hate played out over years that devastate any family and scars kids for life... Family Court laws are currently set up in a way that not only encourages, but also rewards such (Parental Alienation) behaviours..."
A short but touching video an alienated parent made for his daughter Myla Hillman. She is over a year and a half, and she helped to grow the melon in the video from seed with her water in bucket only a few months ago.
“A parent suffering from HAP (Hostile Aggresive Parenting) will do their best to interfere with the relationship of a child with the other parent. Such interferences could include using an older sibling to control the child, guilting the child into submission, not allowing telephone, email, mail, or any other communication between the child and the other parent” ~ Judy Oliveira
In our battle against Parental Alienation, very often we are reminded of the hurts & sufferings that we hv been put thru by the alienators, their lawyers, & a family court system that hardly does anything effective to help us connect with our children. Learn to let go and focus on our pursue to be our children anyway, it is tough but it is possible.
Parental Alienation is kidnapping, and a serious form of emotional and mental child abuse. Anyone who justifies a claim to keep a willing and able parent from the child is an accomplice of this humanity crime.
"This is a great documentary! ♥ My wish to many who are not able to see their children that this happens for them. Steve Monk-Dalton, Cheng Wee, I hope this inspires you and one day closer I do hope for you comes before 10 years has passed ♥" ~ Catherine M. Craig http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xO3HQTOj9mg&feature=player_embedded (First posted on Facebook, 12th August 2011)
"I'm so sorry Wee. I know all too well how heartbreaking and devastating it is to be separated from your child by unjust (and most often corrupt) courts and alienating relatives. As an adult survivor of PA, I know the adverse effects that being separated from one half of your family can have on one's life. It's not fair to the child, the alienated parent or all of those that love the child that are prevented from communication due to their association with the alienated parent. Hang in there Wee. I have a dream that our sons will someday meet, and be one of many voices who speak out against PA. ♥" ~ Darlene Dreisch
I remember during one of our last outings 3 years ago, you were rooted to this spot at PageOne bookstore at Vivo City because they were playing your favourite Tom & Jerry show : ) Thinking of you ~ Dad
I was at Marina Barage the other day and saw this really nice spot. It would have been a great place for us to have fun together had we been able to spend quality bonding time with each other. I am still missing you, Adriel.
Paul's an inspiration to all of us alienated parents. We may not be dead, but our children are leading their lives every day without us because of the alienators, as well as a family court system which they can make use as easy platforms to cruelly separate us from our children. Keep strong, and always do your best for your children.
Just went to the Family Court to make some enquiries and I really dislike the feeling of stepping into that place. It dampened my mood for the rest of the day. When I met up with some friends after that, most of them were unaware that I was not exactly ready to be teased, joke or laugh heartily. But I am grateful to the 1 or 2 more sensitive ones who do understand how difficult it is for us alienated parents.