Friday, August 27, 2010

DAY 131 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Also on this brochure of the DADS FOR LIFE movement by MCYS, they suggest "10 Great Ways to Bond". But we target parents can only do 2 "Great Ways" :
- Share a childhood memory with your child
- Write a love note to your child
even though there is no guarantee that our children will even be aware of them.

So who is prohibiting us from doing the other 8 "Great Ways"? As law abiding citizens, may I ask on what grounds are we being prohibited from bonding with our own children?

(first posted on Facebook, 23 August 2010)

DAY 130 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


On this brochure of the heavily promoted DADS FOR LIFE movement by MCYS, it was asked "Did you know children perform better in school and feel more confident when their fathers take an interest in their lives?"

Yes I do. But some of us are amongst the hunderds or thousands of Singapore fathers (and mothers) who want to be involved in our children's lives, but are being blocked either by our ex-spouses or by rulings of our very own Family Court. So my question back to them is: Are the authorities even aware of the situation and are they doing anything to help us and our children?

Without a doubt, what we are experiencing is parental and children’s rights oppressions in its worst form. And it really saddens me that such a thing is actually happening in a country that I proudly love and grew up in all these years..

Adriel, one day you will get to read this post/blog, and so will many other Singapore children who have been unfairly alienated from their loving parents wanting to be in their lives. And to all the children : Never believe all the lies that you’ve been told, that your daddies or mommies do not care and are not interested in your lives. Though our hands are tied, always remember how hard we will keep fighting against all odds to be with you, and to grant you the rights to love freely..

(first posted on Facebook, 22 August 2010)

DAY 129 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Jill Egizii the author of "The Look of Love" and a mother who has been alienated of her 4 children, speaking up against Parental Alienation.



Children are entitled to a relationship with both their parents, whether or not they live together. Research shows that it is normally in the child's best interests if:

- Children are raised by both parents whether or not they live together, as long as it is safe.
- Each parent supports their children to enjoy a positive relationship with the other parent.
- Parents support children to keep in touch with important people in their lives, such as wider family members and close family friends.
- Children are clear about the arrangements for spending time with each parent.
- Children should not be exposed to sudden changes in arrangements unless it is unavoidable.
- Children should not be exposed to continuing conflict as it can harm them.

(SOURCE; Parenting Plans - Putting Your Children First - A guide for separating parents - pp.4)

(first posted on Facebook, 21 August 2010)

DAY 128 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, this is Jya, your little cousin whom you never have a chance to meet since he was born. He is a toddler now and he is really adorable. I pray that some day you can play with him and his elder brother Koa, I am sure they would love to meet their big cousin Adriel : )

(first posted on Facebook, 20 August 2010)

DAY 127 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Losing our children is as painful as losing our arms. Weep bitterly if you must, but after that get up, wipe your tears, and fight for them like a fearless lion. And if you ever grow weary, get discouraged or feel like giving up, always remember this young man in this video.

"There are only 2 choices for me, its either I end my life, or I live to defy the odds and live life to the fullest" - Liu Wei, an armless contestant from China.

Thank you Liu Wei, you are an inspiration to all of us target parents.

(first posted on Facebook, 19 August 2010)

Thursday, August 19, 2010

DAY 126 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


"I wish i could give up and forget my kids just months after they went, but although i have managed at last to cope day to day with little thoughts of them, I m surrounded by things that remind me of them….my pc monitor has the little stickers all over it that my daughters decorated it with, and at the top my middle daughter wrote ‘I love you mummy’ in pencil….there is a necklace she made me out of beads hanging down one side of the monitor too. These things, after 4 years of being apart from them, i now find comfort in and they remind me of the good times. Sometimes i will find something I m not expecting, and i will cry for hours. sometimes i cant go in their bedrooms even now. It is hard at the start... but it will get easier.”
- Sue Jennifer Wright, my FB friend from Portsmouth UK (in this photo with her children)

I cannot imagine the pain of a mother being alienated from all 5 of her children, but I certainly have an enormous amount of admiration and respect for her strength and courage to keep fighting for them.

Stephen, Aoife, Luka, Taz and Natallia : Be proud, you guys have a warrior mom who loves you like nobody else will.

(first posted on Facebook, 18 August 2010)

DAY 125 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, here is one place you love to go - riding on the ferry boat at Boat Quay. I'd always like to take you and mommy there during evenings, because it is cooler and we could enjoy the beautiful night scenery there. I am sure you can remember the Turkey ice-cream man demonstrating his skills, and also the interesting statue in front of Fullerton Hotel of those boys playing by the river : )

(first posted on Facebook, 17 August 2010)

DAY 124 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Here is another friend of mine, Don Riley, who has been alienated from his beautiful daughter for 2 years now. Like Singapore, parental alienators in UK have also been abusing their family court system to achieve their own selfish needs with no regards whatsoever for the real needs of the children.
Hang on Don, my prayers are with you.

(first posted on Facebook, 16 August 2010)

DAY 123 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


A very informative video on everything you wish to ask about Parental Alienation.
(I am honoured to be one of the fortunate ones to have a chance to communicate with Dr Jayne Major on this topic some months ago).

http://www.videojug.com/interview/parental-alienation

(first posted on Facebook, 15 August 2010)

DAY 122 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, this was you at East Coast Park during one of our outings with mommy. The 3 of us were riding on rented bicycles and I am sure you can remember the incident where this teenager rode his speeding bike recklessly and collided with yours, I was initially very angry with the teenager but he kept apologising and even offered to help. Though you had some slight cuts and bruises, you were a strong boy and were feeling all right after a while.

Daddy never stop thanking God for a son like you, Adriel. Your optimism, stength and determination as a boy never fail to amaze me. Though we have been kept apart by the works of the devil, I have faith that love and truth will truimph over evil, and I will be looking forward to the day when we will be together again.

(first posted on Facebook, 14 August 2010)

DAY 121 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Another heart-breaking story of a FB friend, Jimmy Alden from Taunton, whose little girl Brianna was taken away from him many years ago. After years of alienation, she had been completely brainwashed and is rejecting her own father..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3yssZAhes44&playnext=1&videos=VeE0jZyWiMU

Millions of children are suffering from loss love of their parents, all due to Family Court rulings that tear them apart from their daddies or mommies since young.
I remember Neil Young once sang this : "It's better to Burn Out, than to Fade Away", and that is exactly what all of us parents vow to do for our children, until our last breath.

Brianna, you father may burn out one day, but his undying love will never fade away from your life.

(first posted on Facebook, 13 August 2010)


DAY 120 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


"Christian and Jade, I was in walmart the other day, heard the voice of a little girl laughing saying, 'Daddy do it again'. As I turned to see as I always do when i hear a child's voice says 'daddy', a man had his daughter thrown over his shoulder. As always, my eyes became tearful as I remember how much you loved me throwing you over my shoulder and saying 'I've got me a sack of taters'. There is no sunshine without you... I LOVE YOU.....DADDY" - Andy Cunningham (an alienated parent from Nashville).

I can't help feeling sad reading this, and I cannot comprehend why are so many loving parents and innocent children all over the world left to suffer in silence every single day. So much could be done to help them, but why are the authorities not doing so? Are selfishness and personal gains all that matter?

I feel for you Andy, I know exactly how bitter that feels. But no matter what the tyrants throw in your way, keep your heads up and keep battling. No alienators or authorities can ever kill your love for your children.

(first posted on Facebook, 12 August 2010)

DAY 119 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


2 letters published side-by-side on MyPaper quite some time ago, both directed at the Singapore Family Court.
(I have to block the names of the 2 gentlemen as I could not reach them for permission to publish this)

(first posted on Facebook, 11 August 2010)

DAY 118 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“Father/son nurturing is very important. I've seen the result of boys who do not have a father figure around. They are lazy, sarcastic, and aloof to things that they should know how to do when they start into their teenage years. No stepfather will ever replace or even come close to providing the emotional and intellectual support and nurturing that the biological father can. There is no need for the separation of fathers and children in divorce, the Family Court is ruining our children’s lives. It's a crime that is damaging our children and these tyrants in the Family Courts need to be held accountable.” - Andy Stachura

(first posted on Facebook, 10 August 2010)

Friday, August 13, 2010

DAY 117 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Happy National Day, Adriel. This will be your 3rd National Day celebration without daddy by your side. Like you, many other Singapore children are also deprived by our Family Court of their parents on this special day that marks our nation's 45th birthday.

We all love our country Singapore, but that does not equate to a similar affection for the laws that govern it, especially when they involve the separation of our loved ones. Whatever the obstacles and outcome, it is our responsibilities as parents to fight for a better world for our next generation, and generations after that.

“If you are not afraid of dying, there is nothing you cannot achieve.” - Lao Tzu

(first posted on Facebook, 9 August 2010)

DAY 116 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Many have a misconception of Parental Alienation. It is not about 2 parents struggling and battling over a child, and the child is also not "torn in between". like what most people think.
This cartoon picture accurately shows what Parental Alienation is really about. As seen, there is only 1 parent struggling. The child is also not "in between", but has already been dragged to one side, whilst still struggling hard to maintain contact with both parents.

The Family Court is not inside this cartoon...... How do you draw a "facilitator"?

(first posted on Facebook, 8 August 2010)

DAY 115 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

A YouTube video from Penny Christie, an alienated mother from UK and a friend of mine. It is dedicated to her lovely children Georgia, Ross, Imogen, and also her grandchildren Grace, whom she all missed very much.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PUOQfn34Ojk&playnext=1&videos=0VDZltya7s0

Keep fighting for your loved ones Penny, we are all in this together.

(first posted on Facebook, 7 August 2010)

DAY 114 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“Today is my girls birthday! The first birthday I havn't been there for her. If you read this Layla, this will be the first and last one apart. I have faith that God is with us both and helping me to fight the evil in my life. What comes around goes around and when it arrives its going to hurt. Your birthday card and your presents are on your bed waiting for you to arrive." - Steve Bradeley

(first posted on Facebook, 6 August 2010)

DAY 113 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Another Singapore adult child affected by Parental Alienation has spoken up. It breaks my heart to read about his plight, and I admire his courage and willingness to open up his innermost world to us. (Thank you David, your dad will be proud of you)
How many more children must suffer this insanity of being deprived from their own parents under our current system?

"My aunt came home with a forlorn expression on her face, I wondered if it was due to her working late the night before. I ran into the kitchen to get her some water, and she gently tugged at my hand pulling me to her side and gesturing for me to sit in her lap. She asked me if I had completed my homework, and I politely replied her that indeed I have and have placed the books back into my school bag least I forget them. I had to be polite, I was afterall living in their home for the past two months.

She then told me that she did not attend work that day but she had followed my Mother to Family Court, I was eight not knowing or realizing what that meant, I childishly asked why my mother had not returned home with her. She replied that my Mother had gone to have further discussions with the Lawyer and that henceforth I will be staying with them. They were fantastic people, I loved them and was spoilt to the core by my cousins and aunt, however I sorely missed my bedroom and my Fathers voice, not to mention my neighbours and relatives who were frequent visitors in my Father's house.

My Aunt explained to me very vaguely that the courts had decided that I should only stay with my Mother, They asked me very plainly in a room filled with sorely prejudiced people, if I wanted my uncaring, evil and cruel father who bullied my mother to see me, I was 8 and I without hesitating replied “No”. I at 33 now see that as nothing more than ignorant adults bullying a young child, into seeing things their way.

That is the last memory I had before two years later when I had grown accustomed to my not seeing my father had one sided information drummed into both my ears, I hated my father, and no it was not because of what my Aunt's or Mother had told me. Rather it was the utter and complete feeling of being abandoned by him, my mother remarried shortly after and I started addressing my step dad has Father, if not only for my mothers amusement.

My Mother was a loving human being, and she was a kind soul, however the rift and hate that resulted from the separation and the egging on from the relatives painted the hate one would normally expect from a bitter divorce. Mother never did say much about my dad except the fact that he had never cared for me not provided for me. My father was a drunk, and the pressure my mothers side of the family exerted on him for insisting my mother change her religion to that of my fathers was always the spark that lit the flames of anger and verbal abuse.

My Mother raised me to be a fine gentleman, however the hatred towards my father never did die out, even after I had turned 21 and realized my mother's relatives were wrong. In that the fault primarily rested on both my mum and dad's shoulders. I was 25 and working well, studying towards my degree in Science and at this point of time, me and my father had met a few times over the course of few years and were on talking terms again. Sadly the hatred never really went away, it was always the same thing, the same feeling I had during the Fall of 1986 when I was the only child in my school who won the Sports day but had only my Mother there, at 25 it was the same feeling why did my Father stop fighting for me.

My Father has since passed on this year and I did not get to speak to him nor bid him farewell, I no longer hate him, but now regret has filled that particular void. Why did I stop fighting for him ....

I hope people soon realize Parental Alienation has many faces, I never saw the Judge, I never knew the exact state of affairs untill much later in my adult life. Calling it a travesty would be to put it very mildly. I was stripped of the Love a child so rightly deserves without even my participation.

Parental Alienation is real and it is painful, for me standing at the crossroads of my life where I will be a Father in the very near future makes me stop and think how it must have been for my Father who lost his only son......

Never stop fighting for your children, they depend on both the parents, they need both the parents, they should have both the parents."

Best Regard's
David Silas King (with his dad in the photo)

(first posted on Facebook, 5 August 2010)

DAY 112 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Last year, my friends and I created this group to raise awareness of Parental Alienation (PA). It has since grown to become one of the largest PA groups on Facebook, and I would like to thank the many of you who have supported our cause.

PA is a serious worldwide epidemic destroying iinnocent children and families everywhere. I hope that you could help to send invites to all your friends to join this group in our fight against PA. Because you'll never know there may be someone among your FB friends or even someone they know or heard of who could be badly affected by PA. These people need help and support desperately, we know their pain.


(first posted on Facebook, 4 August 2010)

DAY 111 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, I miss seeing you in your blue Bart Simpson tee-shirt. I remember whenever you have it on, you would enjoy hearing me tease you and say that you are always disturbing daddy like how Bart Simpson would play tricks on his dad. You would then give me that cheeky grin on your face... : )

(first posted on Facebook, 3 August 2010)

Tuesday, August 3, 2010

DAY 110 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“And they wonder why most children today have problems. Its because the children are not even allowed to be with their parents, and these alienated parents have to battle to see their children. A parent should NOT have to go through this. The child IS THE PARENT’S TOO!” - Steven Damron

(first posted on Facebook, 2 August 2010)

DAY 109 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


I am happy and honoured to have Mike Jeffires, author of "A Family's Heartbreak", share this video with me.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fc9XTQw582g&playnext=1&videos=P6OXqLEqQGk

His informative and inspiring speech took place just last week at the 2010 D.C Rally Festival for Family Rights.

(first posted on Facebook, 1 August 2010)

DAY 108 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


A letter published by MyPaper on 21 Nov 2008. It was a plea to the Family Court to lend a helping hand to our children struggling to keep in touch with one of their parents as a result of severe Parental Alienation campaign launched by the other parents (with Care & Control).

(first posted on Facebook, 31 July 2010)

DAY 107 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, remember this? It is a superimpoed picture of you and Doodle, the giant dog from the Tweenies, whom you used to like so much when you were younger. I can still recall the Tweenies are Jake, Mylo, Bella and....the other girl I forgot her name....is it Fizz or something?

(first posted on Facebook, 30 July 2010)

DAY 106 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :



A letter I wrote to The Straits Times forum on Parental Alienation 2 years ago, but they claimed there was "no publishing space". It was instead posted on their online forum with much lesser readers. And not surprisingly, there was also no response from the authority (who obviously has no solution to the problem).

(first posted on Facebook, 29 July 2010)

DAY 105 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Singapore adult children affected by Parental Alienation are speaking up (see story below). An increasing number of innocent children are suffering from the effects of Parental Alienation every single day in our country. It is time for the authorities to take this issue seriously and do something about it.

“Hi Mr Cheng, I would like to pen some thoughts in support of your worthy cause, I have been quietly following your thoughts and posts on your fight for your son.

I wholly support your fight to love your beautiful son Adriel, because it is every parent's right to love their child, their flesh and blood. I hope your ex partner realises this. I am keeping this to the point and simple, take it from me, a child from a messy messy divorce. The ones that get hurt the most, are us, the children. We never recover from that loss of a parent's love. Parental Alienation is very unfair to us, the children.

My parents separated when I was young, and I was denied access to my father, and all his relatives for a good 15 years or so, he was denied visitation rights and unfortunately, my mother had to also paint him in a very negative light. Crudely speaking, my baby brother and I were brainwashed to hate our own father, whose name I carry on my legal papers.

My papa had time and time again tried to discreetly make contact with us throughout the years, but would be found out, partly due to us whistleblowing, having been brainwashed, and she would then send him to court. Again and again and again.

When I turned 18, I decided on my own free will, to know the real story behind all the turmoil that has happened, sought my papa out and decided to make amends. the first thing he said to me was "sorry". That was enough for me. Sorry for not being there for me, for us, my brother and I.

Today, I am best friends with my father, and his new family, and my half sisters, having moved on from the past and looking forward tomore beautiful days ahead. I understand your situation and plight, that a child should NEVER be alienated from his right to a parent, and to contact with family. It devastates us. It definitely devastated me.”

- Asy'ari J. Asni (iwith his 2 baby sisters in this pic)

(first posted on Facebook, 28 July 2010)

DAY 104 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“Just keep doing what you are doing. Eventually the tide will turn and all will be right in the world. This path was chosen for us for a reason. If we weren't as strong as we were, we'd have crumbled a long time ago. Our children are gifts that are molding us into human beings that we'd never realized we could be.” - Emilia Zsuzsanna Rak

(first posted on Facebook, 27 July 2010)

DAY 103 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, I sms mommy earlier today to let her know if you need help with your school work, I can be there to assist you like how I did before (especially on solving your mathematics questions). Even though I did not receive any reply, I will still be praying for the both of you everyday.

Do remember to pay attention in class, be respectful to your teachers, and work hard for your upcoming examinations. As long as you had put in effort to do your best, daddy will always be proud of you : )

(first posted on Facebook, 26 July 2010)

DAY 102 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, this place needs no intro, me & mommy crossed the bridge together with you a couple of times and it was really fun there : )

To all my foreign friends reading this, this is the suspension bridge at Palawan Beach (in Sentosa island) which leads to the most southern part of Singapore. Sentosa is just one of the many places of interest in my beautiful country, you guys should really visit Singapore someday, its a cool place to hang out.

(first posted on Facebook, 25 July 2010)

DAY 101 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This is a picture of cute little Danyel, the only grandchild of my FB friend, Brenda Spencer Eberwein. My friend has been alienated from her grandchild and she misses her terribly.

I hope the alienators and the supporters realize what kind of mental and emotional damage they are doing to these innocent little lives by depriving them of contacts with their loved ones. Children who grow up without the complete love and presence from both sides of the families will have issues when they grow up dealing with relationships of their own and also the society. Parental Alienation is a gigantic social issue that needs to be addressed by the relevant authorities.

Our hearts go out to you Brenda, keep fighting for this adorable baby and never give up! : )

(first posted on Facebook, 24 July 2010)