Tuesday, July 27, 2010

DAY 100 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Amazingly I managed to survive through 100 days without my son, and yet I have not crumbled either physically, mentally or emotionally under the ill-treatment : )

I thank God for the strength, and also for all you kind folks on FB for your numerous prayers, encouragement and well-wishes. I hope and pray that my son will also remain strong during this period of separation from his own father.

Another 80s days to go before I am back in Family Court to find out what the judge decides to do to me next. There is no guarantee that he will let me see my son, because judging from what many of us deprived parents had been put through, it is highly unlikely that the Singapore Family Court has any belief in the importance of parent-child bonding or even encourages it.

It actually does not take a genius to comprehend.the universal truth that "Children need the love and presence of BOTH parents in their lives” (other than some exception of course) But sadly, that is exactly what we deprived parents need to fight so hard to show to our own Family Court!

We are playing fair and we are the ones truly having the best interest of the children at heart. But more often than not, our actions are being narrowly misintepreted by most people as "fighting bitterly against our ex-spouses to win the custody of the children".

Blame it on our local soap dramas always depicting such one-dimension scenarios. If you want to know the whole unknown truth, never rely on TV, they will never be allowed to portray what is truly happening.

Welcome to the real world.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 July 2010)

DAY 99 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


"...I think that the counting of days helps our dear friend realise how much he is thinking of his son, it may also be that he want to demonstrate how unjust he felt. No matter what, i believe and the rest may believe as i do, that such method has personal significance to him." - A Singapore FB friend

(first posted on Facebook, 22 July 2010)

DAY 98 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“Wee, do not let other things bother you, just do the right thing about being there for your son. That is the right our mighty Father in Heaven has given you. And remember the Bible saying: When the Lord is with you, who can be against you?” - Armando Gonsalves

(first posted on Facebook, 21 July 2010)

DAY 97 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


How are you doing son? Daddy has not seen you for more than 3 months and I miss you every single day. If it wasn't for the existence of Family Court orders that restrict parents from being with our children, I would have been there for you. I just want to see you and ask you how are you getting on...

(first posted on Facebook, 20 July 2010)

DAY 96 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


A British author was arrested in Singapore recently on charges of contempt of court. I am a parent fighting to be with my son because the Singapore Family Court has unfairly suspended my access to my son for 6 months (or more), so will I also be arrested for contempt of court?

http://sg.yfittopostblog.com/2010/07/19/british-author-arrested-in-spore-over-book/

I have said this and I will say it again - The Singapore Family Court is not doing enough to help parents (without Care & Control) bond with their children. Even MCYS recognises this grave issue of Parental Alienation, that is why for the recent "Dads For Life" movement, they made it a point to speak to us affected parents over the problems we face, and child access is definitely the biggest issue we have on hand due to many areas that can be improved in our Family Court system.

(first posted on Facebook, 19 July 2010)

DAY 95 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


The Singapore Family Court has rejected my appeal letter to take my son to the Universal Studios. They claimed that I did not follow the proper procedure. But when I applied the same way last year, they actually approved it without mentioning any "proper procedure".
Frankly I really do not know what to believe anymore as a Singaporean, I just know that there are hundreds of parents like myself trying so hard to see and bond with our own children but the Family Court is instead putting up walls between us. And if we were to raise this up as an issue, we may risk being handcuffed also for some ridiculous reasons like "personal safety" and "public safety".


http://sg.yfittopostblog.com/2010/07/18/newspaper-photographer-detained-for-taking-flood-photos/

(first posted on Facebook, 18 July 2010)

DAY 94 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Children suffer the most when they are separated from their loving parents. This is the most cruel form of penalty that the Family Court can ever impose on their innocent lives.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBAP32gQmk8

In this short clip, children who suffered this form of abuse revealed how Parental Alienation affected their lives, and most of all, their relation with the alienated parent.

(first posted on Facebook, 17 July 2010)



DAY 93 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“You are doing nothing different from any other individuals who use FaceBook to post events of their day, or how they feel about people in their lives. Just because your son is not with you, that shoudn't prevent you from posting your joy, your hurts, your thoughts and your feelings. Stay strong, Wee!” - Colleen Reilly

(first posted on Facebook, 16 July 2010)

DAY 92 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This is a YouTube video of a song written by my Singapore friend, Anthony Aloysius Marshall, for divorced parents who only get limited time to see their child due to Parental Alienation and harsh Family Courts rulings.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WXXM8fwdpXs&videos=nu7_vcmICG8


Thank you Marshall, the song means a lot to us.

(first posted on Facebook, 15 July 2010)

DAY 91 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Today I passed by a DVD shop and they were playing this movie sequel. I could not help but decided to buy this DVD because I remember just how much you love Madagascar, and how much fun the 3 of us had watching it together at the cinema.

I am not sure when I will get a chance to watch this Madagascar sequel DVD with you, because I do not know how much longer the Family Court uncles & aunties are going to deprive us of our access time together. But like all children, you definitely deserve the love and presence of both parents, and its our duties as your parents to fight and grant you that basic rights.

(first posted on Facebook, 14 July 2010)

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

DAY 90 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


It is Day 90 today, I am half way through the 6 months of inhumane suspension by the Singapore Family Court of me and my son’s rights to be together. Many of you asked me how can that possibly happen in a modern and civilized society like Singapore? I say it is definitely possible, because I am a living proof that even if you are not an abusive, violent or disinterested parent, you can still end up being deprived of your own child.

My ex-wife engaged a Singapore MP as a lawyer, and the Family Court judge spoke very highly of him even in my presence. Arrangements were made by the Family Court to have a counselor speak to my confused & alienated son so as to submit a procedural report. The same judge then made a decision to remove me from my son's life for 6 months (for now).

By the way, here is a pic of the statue in front of the Singapore Family Court, it is supposed to signify family togetherness, values, bonding, blah, blah, blah.

(first posted on Facebook, 13 July 2010)

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

DAY 89 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Another informative video on Parental Alienation. The authority should stop living in denial and turning a blind eye to Parental Alienation, it is destroying the lives of innocent children and loving parents every single day.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrsVP2oMYDU&feature=related

(first posted on Facebook, 12 July 2010)

DAY 88 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This 10 min video shows how some innocent children end up committing suicide, while others were more fortunate to break away from the alienators' claws.

http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/WFive/20091106/w5_divorce_091107/

Parental Alienation is Child Abuse in its worst form, the authorities really need to do something about it.

(first posted on Facebook, 11 July 2010)

DAY 87 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, this is your little cousin Koa (Gu Gu's eldest son), who is a few years younger than you. I am sure you can still remember him, even though you were seldom given the chance to meet and play with him.

Gu Gu and her family hope to see you soon, I am sure they all miss you very much too..

(first posted on Facebook, 10 July 2010)

DAY 86 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, you have always been a determined boy, and I am proud of you. This photo was taken at a playground where you were trying to climb to the top of the "rope mountain". I remember it was already late in the evening but you showed a lot of determination and insisted on reaching the top before we would leave the place for dinner, and you succeeded. That's my son : )

(first posted on Facebook, 9 July 2010)

DAY 85 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, I dreamt about you again last night. You came along and sat on my lap like how you always do, and started singing a song to me about the "golden sun and the sea". I could not help but started to cry and I noticed your eyes were teary too...
Don't be sad, my son, God knows how much daddy loves you..

(first posted on Facebook, 8 July 2010)

DAY 84 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


One of my Singapore FB friends, Anthony Aloysius Marshall, recently wrote a song & dedicated it to all divorced parents who only get limited time to see their child due to harsh Family Courts rulings.

Thanks Anthony, hopefully we can get to hear it on YouTube soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 7 July 2010)

DAY 83 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


It was a difficult birthday without my son, but I am blessed and overwhelmed to receive tons of wishes and support from all of you, my friends and my relatiives. It was a day I will never forget....thank you everyone, from the bottom of my heart..

Though my son is not able to wish me, I know he remembers my birthday because he could tell me my birth date when he was still a toddler. And this is the last card that he was allowed to make for me, one that I will always treasure..

Hang on son, we will be together again soon : )

(first posted on Facebook, 6 July 2010)

DAY 82 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This is a photo of Mr Tan (a Singapore parent) with his daughter during happier times. He has not been with her for more than a year now and he misses her very badly...
Like him, many other Singapore parents without Care & Control continue to be deprived of their own children in our "civilised" society.

(first posted on Facebook, 5 July 2010)

DAY 81 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“Now you are being told by the Family Court that you cannot network? This power and control is, as we have all known, very extreme. Next, they will tell you that you cannot talk about your son, mention his name, or even think about him! Where does this insanity end? Your videos of Adriel are such loving tributes...this child is truly blessed to have you for a dad. They can never silence your love, Wee.” - Joy Henley

(first posted on Facebook, 4 July 2010)

Sunday, July 4, 2010

DAY 80 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“The notion that a Family Court can do something so terrible litterly burns my skin. Hang tough my friend and take it one day at a time. Remember, each day gone is one day less.” - Samuel Moss

(first posted on Facebook, 3 July 2010)

DAY 79 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This is my friend Pat Ritchie with his little man, Patrick, who will be 5 years old this august. They see each other every weekend for only 4 hours, and they both cried when its time to leave, but Pat would try his best not to show it...

Pat, I just want you to know that I feel both your happiness and pain...
God knows how much we love our children. He will make things right for all of us.

(first posted on Facebook, 2 July 2010)

DAY 78 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, these Sentosa miniature monorails were your favourites. Me and mommy got for you all 4 in differnt colours, orange, purple, green and blue. You love to play them on the soft brown carpet in our hall and make "train tracks" on it : )

I pray for the day when we will get a chance to travel on them to Sentosa again soon.
(first posted on Facebook, 1 July 2010)

DAY 77 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


MCYS made this recent short film to highlight the importance of Filial Piety, with the campaign captured by the line, "How one generation loves, the next generation learns."

But for the thousands of us divorced parents, if we can even be restricted by the Family Court from spending time with our own children, how can they even have a proper chance to learn from how we love?

If there is anything that our children learn from this whole ordeal, it simply teaches them that parental roles can be easily undermined in our society, because even the authorities are blocking their own parents from them.

It is difficult for MCYS to promote this campaign effectively when we have other authorities doing things in reverse.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ybxNkpS5q-g

(first posted on Facebook, 30 Jun 2010)

DAY 76 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, I remember this is your favourite Kueh Lapis cake from Bengawan Solo, I just wish I can buy them for you again... it will be a big piece: )

(first posted on Facebook, 29 Jun 2010)

DAY 75 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, you love to bowl even though the ball was a little too heavy for you. You were only 9 years old when this picture was taken, the last time that we played together.
But I am sure you can bowl better now, and I know we will get a chance to play together again soon, son : )

(first posted on Facebook, 28 Jun 2010)