Wednesday, September 22, 2010

DAY 153 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


I was rather surprised to see this detailed article written on my case. It was posted on the net just a few days ago.

http://angiemedia.com/2010/09/11/singapore-schools-and-courts-enable-parental-alienation-child-abuse/

(first posted on Facebook, 14 September 2010)

DAY 152 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


I will always remember 14 Sep 2008, it was exactly 2 years ago today that the 3 of us last went out together to Takashimaya. I recall we were in an art & craft shop, and you asked me to get an art & craft item for you, and I responded by saying "Sure, we can do this art & craft thing together".

The next thing I know, mommy went to pay for that item at the counter, and soon after, the both of you vanished. I tried contacting mommy after that but there was no response, I waited outside the shop for a long time but there was no sight of the both of you. That was how our last access time outing ended, very adruptly and without any explanations of what was going on.

And from September 2008 to June 2009, for a period of 9 consecutive months, we were totally deprived of our access time together. When this was brought up to the Family Court, not only did they not enforce and give us make up for our access time as agreed in the court order, instead they reduced it to just 1 hour per week, and it had to be at this Thye Hua Kwan family centre assigned by them where many parents have to fork out $100-$120 per hour to see their own children. It was really tough on daddy, but I had to put up with everything in order to see you.

(first posted on Facebook, 13 September 2010)

DAY 151 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


“Once again your inquiries are honest and straight forward. Not answering these honestly and timely is damaging and neglegent. The real crime on their part is not keeping a bridge of communication through these executive branches to you. You are doing more to be proactive for this child than anyone I ever knew. These people in charge of authority that read this letter should carry a heavy burden now. This story needs a happy ending, it has been written too long. Adriel needs his life story to have a happy ending with you in his life.” - Cyndi MacDonald, my friend from Blaine, MN (Thank you Cyndi, that means a lot to me and my son..)

(first posted on Facebook, 12 September 2010)

Tuesday, September 21, 2010

DAY 150 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, you used to sing this song aloud when you were younger with your lovely voice, and I would go "Wow, what song is that?".

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ijQUkkFq-Hc&feature=related

Its true we all have our fair share of "Bad Day", you have to cope with your PSLE exams now without daddy there to help you, and give you love and support. And I have to live my life everyday without hearing your lovely voice around me.

In times like these, we pray. Because there will always be sunshine after the rain, God made it that way for us.

(first posted on Facebook, 11 September 2010)


DAY 149 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Here's my LETTER which none of the English papers is willing to publish. So I emailed it to
- the Family Court
- the Ministry Of Law and all its ministers
- the Ministry Of Education and all its ministers
- and also cc to MCYS and all its ministers.


A plea from a parent to be there for his child

Lately MCYS has been promoting the nationwide “Dads For Life” movement, emphasizing the importance of fathers in children's life. I am a divorced parent with joint custody of my son. However, due to changes in rulings of the Family Court and blockages from his school, I have been excluded from his life in every way. I doubt these actions of the school and the Family Court are in any way close to even supporting this movement.

Since the divorce, my son has been brainwashed by his care-takers to build hostility against me. A letter was then sent to his principal, claiming he was “traumatized” by me communicating with his teachers. Consequently, the principal demanded me to stay away “in the best interest of my son”. They also evaded all information pertaining to him from me. In November 2009 at their school carnival, his class teacher even warned me to stay away or they will engage security force against me. Though I have a right to see my son, I complied with their demands to avoid an unpleasant scene.

I used to have 8-hour weekly access to my son, but it was reduced, and recently even suspended for 6-months by the Family Court claiming it was “in his higher interest”. Without his father’s presence, it affected my son who used to be a top achiever. His recent grades have deteriorated tremendously, and needs to attend extra lessons specially catered for him. Much as I want to help my son with his PSLE examinations, I cannot even do so as a father.

I hope the Family Court and MOE can enlighten me on the following -

1. How is the 6-months suspension of my presence in my son’s life in his “higher interest”? Now that he has suffered severely in academic performance, may I ask how has that decision made by the Family Court benefited him or his examinations?

2. The school and the Family Court are constantly barring me from my son. May I ask what are they protecting him from? Is his father a convicted criminal?

3. I have been very obliging whenever asked by the school to stay away. But why wasn’t I even informed when my son’s grades are deteriorating?

It pains me as a parent to see my child struggling and I am not even allowed to be there for him. All I ask is access time with him to help in his examinations, and to offer him love and support during this crucial time of his life.

Is a father’s involvement in his child’s life too much to ask? Isn’t this exactly what the nationwide “Dads For Life” movement has been calling out all fathers to do for their children?

Yours truly,
Mr Cheng Wee

(first posted on Facebook, 10 September 2010)

DAY 148 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Ken, you are such an inspiration to all of us parents! I am overjoyed to receive this latest good news in this video.

http://video.au.msn.com/watch/video/father-and-son-reunited/x4bk2h9

Parents, keep fighting for your children, they need that from you.

(first posted on Facebook, 9 September 2010)


DAY 147 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Its sad that I cannot be with you this September holidays, Adriel. I just want you to know that daddy has never forgotten about you, and its our family court that is disallowing me from spending time with you. I hope you will get to read this one day and understand the truth.

(first posted on Facebook, 8 September 2010)

DAY 146 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, this was you back in 2008 at the Singapore Flyer building observing the balloon maker at work. There was this interesting flight simulation school there which I had wanted to enrol a class as a surprise birthday gift for you, but never had a chance to do so due to the Family Court rulings.
I pray for God to open up the eyes, minds and hearts of people, so that we can go there again together very soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 7 September 2010)

Tuesday, September 14, 2010

DAY 145 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


”No one fights this hard for their child if there is no love. Wee, you have already proven your love over and over again. It is so wrong what is happening to you and your son. Never give up on your son and you will prevail. Many are praying for you and your son.” - Kim Paluch Moore

(first posted on Facebook, 6 September 2010)


DAY 144 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Here's the movie on Parental Alienation that many are talking about. It shows why bitter parents cannot control their own hatred, and resort to turning their innocent children against their ex-spouses.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JxL9-Wt19HI&ob=av1n


Parental Alienation is an intense emotional and mental damage that will affect the children and haunt them for a long time....like a "monster" in their closet.

(first posted on Facebook, 5 September 2010)

DAY 143 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, among daddy's FB friends, there is a USA auntie named Brenda Spencer Eberwein who showed me the spirit of fighting for your own flesh & blood and what it means to have undying love for your loved ones.

I am sad to learn that her husband has just passed away yesterday, and I pray that God will be with her and all the families and friends during this difficult period..

Brenda, I am truly sorry for your loss. If you are reading this, I just want to tell you that you are a shining star to all of us and I am proud to call you my friend.

(first posted on Facebook, 4 September 2010)

DAY 142 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


I remember you once told me MR BUMP is one of your most adored characters of the MR MEN series created by the late Mr Roger Hargreaves.

Daddy likes MR BUMP too, in fact I aspire to be like him. Because no matter how many times he falls or knocks into things and have wounds and bandages all over his body, he will always keep a smile on his face and carries on doing what needs to be done.

(first posted on Facebook, 3 September 2010)

DAY 141 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, surely you will recognise this "monster", you love to imitate him after every Just For Laughs show with the line "Mommy...Its Over!...". LOL..

(first posted on Facebook, 2 September 2010)


DAY 140 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


There was a lot of hype about this Songs Of The Sea show at Sentosa when it was first launched. I took you and mommy to catch it 2 years ago during an outing we had, and I remember you were not impressed after watching. Me neither, what I really enjoy was being there with you : )

(first posted on Facebook, 1 September 2010)

DAY 139 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, the Night Safari has always been one of your favourite destinations, especially riding in the tramp and catching glimpses of the animals really up close. I remember you love to watch the animal show performances, remember that guy who would always pretend he lost his "pet" and ask the zoo-keeper to find for him? lol.. : )

(first posted on Facebook, 31 August 2010)

DAY 138 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This is one of my fav photos of you taken many years ago at Bishan MacDonalds. You sat there like a big boss and seemed to be asking me "What do you want from me?" LOL...
I miss everything about you, son : )

(first posted on Facebook, 30 August 2010)

DAY 137 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, remember the day we went to watch the fireworks display at Marina Bay? I could not find a place to park the car, so I let you and mummy alight first at Marina Bay while I drove all the way to the carpark near the old National Library. After the show, I recall you commented that you were amazed I parked the car so far away... Actually I am not sure why I can still remember some of the common things you said years ago...I just do.

(first posted on Facebook, 29 August 2010)

DAY 136 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


I couldn’t help but wept a little when I first read this note from my friend, Emilia Zsuzsanna Rak, an alienated parent from Colleyville, TX. That sour feeling is all too familiar..

“I still have the baby blanket that all four girls used. As my oldest turns 18 tomorrow the sweet baby scent has long since left. I wash it from time to time to keep it from smelling stale... and like a fool I will hold it close after I wash it and inhale deeply to see if maybe, just maybe that sweet infant scent will be there...

Eventually I know that blanket will be stale no more. Until that day I will do whatever I can to cry less and smile more… We'll be here holding one another up until our prayers have been answered.”

Yes we certainly will, Emilia.

(first posted on Facebook, 28 August 2010)

DAY 135 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


If I ever gets arrested over my daily posts to my son, that would be really regrettable. My posts are a very clear indication that we have a genuine issue here affecting hunderds and thousands of local parents, children, and family members.

We will be naive to think that our Facebook posts are not being monitored, but I hope the authorities who are following my posts quietly actually have an intention to lend us a helping hand, and not for any other reasons.

Adriel, I will never stop putting up my daily posts for you, it is one of the few possible ways that we target parents can reach out to our children.

(first posted on Facebook, 27 August 2010)

DAY 134 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


A blog from my friend Daniel Rector from USA for his beautiful little girl who has been alienated from him..

http://www.travelblog.org/Bloggers/Real-Dad/

I feel your pain Daniel, and I want to share these with you -

为了我们的孩子的爱,不要放弃。
Untuk cinta untuk anak-anak kita, jangan menyerah.
Pour l'amour pour nos enfants, n'abandonnez pas.
अपने बच्चों के लिए प्यार के लिए, ऊपर नहीं देते.
Für die Liebe für unsere Kinder, nicht aufgeben.
우리의 아이에 대한 사랑은 포기하지 않습니다.
Per l'amore per i nostri figli, non si arrendono.
Por el amor de nuestros hijos, no se dé por vencido.
子供たちのための愛については、あきらめてはいけない。
Voor de liefde voor onze kinderen, geef niet op.
Đối với tình yêu dành cho trẻ em của chúng tôi, không cho lên
Para sa pag-ibig para sa aming mga anak, huwag sumuko.
รักเด็กของเราไม่ยอมแพ้
For kærligheden til vores børn, ikke give op.
Z lásky pro naše děti, nevzdávejte to.

In whichever language, they all say the same thing to us.
Keep battling.

(first posted on Facebook, 26 August 2010)

DAY 133 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This photo was taken during our last trip to the Botanic Garden with mommy. I remember you had so much fun playing with the other kids at the playground, and all the other new facilities they had specailly built for children. But your favourite spot is definitely the Eco Garden : )

(first posted on Facebook, 25 August 2010)

DAY 132 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


A loving picture of my friend David Michael Robert Thomas from Dagenham(UK) sharing a precious moment with his loving son Charlie. They are seeing each other every Sunday but the parental alienator is still making things difficult for them, and negatively influencing their relationship with lies and allegations.

Come what may, you'll always have my support and prayers bro. Keep the love alive for your boy, it will always prevail over bitterness, hatred and evil.

(first posted on Facebook, 24 August 2010)