Friday, October 8, 2010

DAY 165 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, I am sure you can recognise these stickers. Mommy pasted them on the bathroom wall to make your bath time more fun. That was many years ago.

(first posted on Facebook, 26 September 2010)

DAY 164 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


This letter was published a few days ago on The Straits Times forum.

The writer asked what is being done to address the on-going issue of parents violating court orders granting their ex-spouses access to their children.

I'm not sure if the authority will reply, but it is shocking to see Court Order papers being treated like Toilet papers by errant parents who continue to cut off their children from contacts with their ex-spouses without any accountability.

With the majority of parents with Care & Control being mothers, it will be really sad to see the authority bowing down to women's groups and allowing the oppressions to continue. The authority have the moral obligation to help the children maintain proper and regular contacts with both their parents. This is their basic rights as Singapore children.

(first posted on Facebook, 25 September 2010)

DAY 163 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

A recent BBC news, where Sir Nicholas Wall, president of the Family Division of the High Court has warned that separating parents can do their children enormous harm by using them as a "battlefield" and "ammunition".

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-11380470

Some quotes by Sir Nicholas -

"Parents simply do not realise the damage they do to their children by the battles they wage over them."

"A child was not a piece of property which can be parcelled up and moved around at will."

"Parents often found it difficult to understand that children loved and had a loyalty to both parents."

"There is nothing worse, for most children, than for their parents to denigrate each other."

"If a child's mother makes it clear to the child that his or her father is worthless - and vice versa - the child's sense of self-worth can be irredeemably damaged."

"...Parliament rather than judges should decide whether shared parenting orders - where children live with each parent at different times - were to become the norm over children living with one parent and having regular contact with the other."

"...the separated parent's role in the lives of his or her children retains the same degree of importance as when the parents were living together..."

"Children do better in every way if they have two parents in their lives, and the children of separated families are no exception." - Craig Pickering from Families Need Fathers

(first posted on Facebook, 24 September 2010)

DAY 162 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Remember this green car, Adriel? Though Daddy cannot afford a car, I know you love to travel in cars, so I did my best to rent a car every weekend and take you and mommy out on outings to many places all over Singapore. I know those were your favourite times as I could sense your joy and happiness. And that means everything to me.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 September 2010)

DAY 161 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, remember this 2006 Vacation Bible School poster featurng you in the middle? (you were dressed in blue, standing beside the boy in white).
You are such a special boy to many of us, and daddy is so proud of you : )

(first posted on Facebook, 22 September 2010)

DAY 160 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Like most boys, you were fascinated by Spiderman. You wrote this note on the refrigerator some years ago before Spiderman 3 was shown in the theatres.

"The battles lies within"...how true... but rest assured God will help us overcome all obstacles and make things right for us.

And we shall watch Spiderman 4 and 5 together son : )

(first posted on Facebook, 21 September 2010)

DAY 159 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, you were so fond of the sandcastle kit made by uncle Alvin Lee that I took a bus all the way to his house in the east to purchase it from him one night after work, and brought it home for you.

Since then, we had so much fun playing with the kit, building all sorts of sandcastles with it at either East Coast Park or at the Sentosa beach.

I am not sure if you still keep that sandcastle kit with you now, but these photos will always remind me of the great times we had together at the beach.

(first posted on Facebook, 20 September 2010)

DAY 158 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Adriel, on our last trip to Changi Airport with mommy during our access time, remember we did this "drawing" together? I love this photo with our hands together side by side : )

Daddy cannot be by your side now, despite my plea to the family court to let me help you with your exams. I hope you are doing well with your preparation, I am praying for you everyday, son.

(first posted on Facebook, 19 September 2010)

DAY 157 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


Temaek Review yesterday published the below story on me (which was originally written by a USA group AngiEmedia) but they did not ask or inform me about it. TR copied and pasted almost the entire article from the AngiEmedia site, and I have been trying to contact them on this. Knowing their reputation as a webpage voicing out against the government, I do not want anyone to get the incorrect impression that my pursue here on FB is to go against any authorities. I have said before and I will say it again, that I am NOT into politics, and I am only a normal father who wants to be with my son.


On this TR page, I was disturbed to read about some unpleasant things and accusations being commented about me. Some friends of mine who knew about this were kind enough to respond promptly in my defence, and I am really thankful for that.

(first posted on Facebook, 18 September 2010)

DAY 156 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

A new Parental Alienation video on YouTube, and another sad story of a parent whose children were alienated and taken away from him since 1997...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F6TCpN_7mx0

Why be so inhumane and put loving parents and innocent children through 13 long years of painful separation and endless emotional abuse?

(first posted on Facebook, 17 September 2010)

DAY 155 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

To all alienators : If your children ever mean anything to you, its time to put aside your personal bitterness and agenda to seriously consider what is really in their best interest. I am sure you yourself do not like to be forced to choose between your own parents, so why force your innocent children to make such a choice?

http://www2.tricities.com/news/2010/jul/29/children-caught-custody-battles-face-challenges-ar-354430/

(first posted on Facebook, 16 September 2010)

DAY 154 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :


My plea to help my son with his exams was not approved by the Family Court.

This is my REPLY LETTER which I emailed to

- The Family Court
- Ministry Of Law and all its ministers
- PM Lee Hsien Loong
- SM Goh Chok Tong
- MM Lee Kuan Yew
- SM Prof S Jayakumar
- DPM Wong Kan Seng
- DPM Teo Chee Hean
- Minister Lim Boon Heng
- Minister Lim Swee Say
- MCYS and all its ministers


To whom it may concern,

It is truly regrettable that the Family Court is not willing to consider my appeal to be there for my son during this critical period of his life.

How my son had suffered academically over the months is the best living proof that your 6 months suspension of my presence in his life has done him more harm than good. This is obviously not in his "higher" or "paramount" interest as you had repeatedly claimed.

And even with the nationwide promotion of "Dads For Life" by MCYS that clearly supports the importance of fathers in children's lives, my access to my son continues to be denied without any valid reasons given.

With your on-going practice of limiting and suspending access time of parents, you are letting hundreds and thousands of innocent children down by depriving them of a normal emotional growth and a healthy relationship with their parents.

This is going to have a huge negative impact on our entire society and country as we all know.

Mr Cheng

(first posted on Facebook, 15 September 2010)