Friday, April 1, 2011

Our 46th access – Denied (26th March 2011) :


This news article (just months ago) may not be the happiest thing to see, but at least Parental Alienation was given some much needed media attention and awareness islandwide in Singapore.
And after all, its not everyday that me & Adriel get a chance to share the same page with a superstar like Jay Chou (The Green Hornet) : )

(First posted on Facebook, 26th March 2011)

Our 45th access – Denied (25th March 2011) :


A word of prayer for the hundreds/thousands of Singapore grandparents (and millions others worldwide) who cannot be with their grandchildren as a result of Parental Alienation continuing to be dominant in our society.
The saddest thing is that most of these grandparents may not ever get a chance to see their own grandchildren again... not even at their deathbed.
In many cases, the alienated children are also forbidded (by the alienating parents) to attend their grandparents' funeral..

I do not know if the authorities' ever feel anything for such sad events. They can organise all the "Grandparents Day" events they want, but they are obviously either forgetting or omitting a big group of old folks out there who need help more than anything else in the world to connect with their own grandchildren. God help us all..

(First posted on Facebook, 25th March 2011)

Our 44th access – Denied (19th March 2011) :


Adriel, this was taken during your birthday celebration some years ago. You are easily the best looking boy to me, my son : )

(First posted on Facebook, 19th March 2011)

Our 43rd access – Denied (18th March 2011) :


This letter from an alienated child of a target parent (who is my FB friend) reminds me of something similar that happened to me 3 years ago.
I know of other target parents from Singapore also receiving such "notices" from their children's principal or the teacher out of the blue. I wonder what is MOE's (Ministry Of Education) stand on such matters.

(First posted on Facebook, 18th March 2011)

Our 42nd access – Denied (12th March 2011) :


This pic was taken many years ago when u went back to visit your kindergarten, and you were too big for the toy structures there, lol.
Just want to let you know that daddy is praying for you, and also everyone who has been taking care of you.

(First posted on Facebook, 12th March 2011)

Our 41st access – Denied (11th March 2011) :


Just met another 2 parents who were alienated from their children, it broke my heart to hear their stories.. This worldwide problem of PA is worsening everyday, with nothing effective being done to keep families connected.

To the 2 parents, & anyone out there fighting to be with your children : Keep the love alive, may God help us all.

(First posted on Facebook, 11th March 2011)

Our 40th access – Denied (5th March 2011) :


Recently, some friends of mine went for this animation movie but I did not join them, I guess it still hurts to sit through animation movies without being reminded of you..
I am not sure if such feelings are unhealthy and need to be overcome, but I know I will... some day soon.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7_L_5vrHoWQ

God bless you, Adriel, daddy is still praying for you.

(First posted on Facebook, 5th March 2011)

Our 39th access – Denied (4th March 2011) :


Adriel, here's another old photo of you that I found. I am still missing you badly but no worries, daddy is doing fine, and many are praying for our reunion. Keep the faith son, I know God will see us through.

(First posted on Facebook, 4th March 2011)

Our 38th access – Denied (26th February 2011) :


Every year, thousands of SINGAPORE children are also being emotionally affected and deprived of Adequate & Well-Deserved time with one of their parents. And the numbers have been accumulating for many years now. What have our authorities done to address this issue effectively?


(Thanks to Dawn Kelly for this video, you are in our prayers)

(First posted on Facebook, 26th February 2011)

Our 37th access – Denied (25th February 2011) :


Daddy met up with a friend today who related to me how he took his young daughter for a day of fun at the zoo, and it reminded me of the good times we spent there together when you were younger. So I came home, hunted high and low, and was so glad to find this precious photo... I really miss you, son.

(First posted on Facebook, 25th February 2011)

Our 36th access – Denied (19th February 2011) :


Adriel, I carry this photo with me all the time, I can't miss it whenever I use my wallet everyday... Though it can be hard sometimes to look at the photo, I am sure many other alienated parents do the same. It reminds us of just how much you all mean to us, and why we should never give up the pursue to be with you.

(First posted on Facebook, 19th February 2011)

Our 35th access – Denied (18th February 2011) :


Adriel, here is the song with lyrics that mean so much to daddy and many other parents. It is like a Parental Alienation theme song, it expresses our feelings as alienated parents towards all of you... We will be there for all of you till the end, and I pray for God to give us the strength..


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5sG0HsGHrao


(First posted on Facebook, 18th February 2011)

Our 34th access – Denied (12th February 2011) :


Adriel, on this international Parental Alienation calendar created by daddy's FB friend (auntie Heather Graner), it has all the alienated childrens' names printed on the dates of their birthday. As you can see on this picture, your name is on 5th November, and its a Saturday. I pray that we can spend that day together, and I pray the same for all the other alienated children & parents.

(First posted on Facebook, 12th February 2011)

Our 33rd access – Denied (11th February 2011) :


Adriel, we are featured in the month February 2012 of this international Parental Alienation calendar that daddy's facebook friends have created to raise worldwide awareness of this issue that we are all going through. I pray to God that some day we will all be able to create a "Reunifications of Children & Parents" calendar : )

(First posted on Facebook, 11th February 2011)

Our 32nd access – Denied (5th February 2011) :


Adriel, here's a photo of your cousins, Koa (right) and Jya (left), with Shevaun, the daughter of uncle Sean. This photo was taken 2 months ago during uncle Shane's wedding. I pray to God that someday you will be allowed to meet your cousins and hang out together with them : )

(First posted on Facebook, 5th February 2011)

Our 31st access – Denied (4th February 2011) :


Happy Chinese New Year to you, Adriel ! : ) Daddy wanted to hand the red packet to you personally but could not do so despite my weekly efforts to contact mommy and also to look you up at your house on some occasions. Anyway, its the beginning of a new year and a fresh start for all of us.... I pray for God's hand of protection over you and also those who are taking care of you, let their hearts be softened and be submissive to God's will.

(First posted on Facebook, 4th February 2011)

Our 30th access – Denied (29th January 2011) :


Adriel, though daddy is still being deprived from access time with you, I was happy to learn that one of my FB friends, uncle Chris Sims from UK, is at last making contact with his alienated children a few days ago. This picture speaks a thousand words and I can really sense their joy from the smiles on their faces. And even though they have to wait another 6 months to see one another again, it was a special day that all of them will never forget... God is good all the time. Daddy has faith that He will reunite all the parents and children one day : )

(First posted on Facebook, 29th January 2011)

Our 29th access – Denied (28th January 2011) :


Adriel, remember how you love "Kung Fu Panda" when we watched it together with mommy almost 2 years ago? Now "King Fu Panda 2" is coming, I will do anything in the world just to get a chance to take you to the movies again. God bless you my son, our day of reunification is drawing closer..


(First posted on Facebook, 28th January 2011)

Our 28th access – Denied (22nd January 2011) :


A video depicting the kind of pain we go through as rejected parents. It also gives valuable tips on how to respond to your alienated children and the common mistakes to avoid. Unless under extreme situations, NEVER ever give up on your pursue for your children.



(First posted on Facebook, 22nd January 2011)

Our 27th access – Denied (21st January 2011) :


“Family institution is fundamental to any country... Fall and the country will fall... Its the building blocks of life and society.” - Mus Karimy

(First posted on Facebook, 21st January 2011)

Our 26th access – Denied (15th January 2011) :


Ls Faun Witt - “Even if they ask the child, the child may be so swayed against the parent from hearing certain messages about the targeted parent that they may THINK they don't want to see that parent. I can teach my children to hate most anything I want. They trust me to do what is right for them so they will side with me if I want them to hate.”

(First posted on Facebook, 15th January 2011)

Our 25th access – Denied (14th January 2011) :


Bruce Shollenberger – “At some later juncture the system places to much emphasis on the children's choice. Of course, an alienated child does not want to upset the alienating parent. The child is fueled with fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Things are easily turned around in a child's mind allowing the selfish and greedy to use them as a weapon against their own best interests. Very very sick.”

(First posted on Facebook, 14th January 2011)

Our 24th access – Denied (8th January 2011) :


Many of us alienated parents can only dream of carrying our children the way Dr Vivian Balakrishnan did in this video with his son.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNHt6d1HbuU


(First posted on Facebook, 8th January 2011)

Our 23rd access – Denied (7th January 2011) :


"Men should be given fair access to their children by ex-wives. Ex-wives should not use access to children as a bargaining chip for collection of maintenance. I think as adults we should all recognize that children have a right to both parents, and will almost always benefit from access to both parents. And no matter how ugly the dispute between the adults is, we should not make our children hostage or bargaining chips. I'd like to point out that breaches in access orders are punishable as a contempt of court, which may lead to a fine or imprisonment. Just as we expect the men to pay maintenance arrears, women should also comply fully with access orders issued by the court."


- Dr Vivian Balakrishnan, Singapore’s Minister for Community Development, Youth and Sports.(on his closing Speech for the Womens Charter Amendment)


(First posted on Facebook, 7th January 2011)