Monday, May 31, 2010

DAY 46 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I remember this particular Pixar short film with the adult lamp and the child lamp is your favourtie : )

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P28FQns0OoM&feature=related

I recall how much you love to watch it with me and mommy during those days....
I really miss your smile and laughter, son.

(first posted on Facebook, 30 May 2010)

DAY 45 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Many parents all over the world have their children been unfairly taken away from them. One such example is Ken Thompson, whose son Andrew was abducted in 2007, and he is cycling to raise the awareness of child abduction.

http://www.findandrew.com/

Uncle Ken is an inspiration to daddy and many parents all over the globe. Rest assured that we parents will never ever give up fighting for all of you.

(first posted on Facebook, 29 May 2010)

DAY 44 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :

Adriel, one of my FB friends, who is a Singapore JC student, had actually created a section on "Parental Alienation in Singapore" with his classmates under their General Paper blog, and it featured our story!

http://h1-gp-words-words.blogspot.com/2010/05/social-activism.html

I was told that this blog is visited by over 100 JC students each day, and that many of them can associate with this topic because they are actually victims of Parental Alienation themselves. Now that they have grown up, they are feeling very frustrated with what they had been put through and how they have been unfairly deprived of one of their parents during their growing up years.

(first posted on Facebook, 28 May 2010)

DAY 43 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I am glad to learn that Teri Stoddard, an advocate from USA for children and shared parenting, also wrote a blog post about us. (Many thanks, Teri !)

http://www.sharedparentingworks.org/wordpress/?p=494

Its heartening to see that our plight is getting more attention and help from overseas.

So what has Singapore done to help us affected parents and children? .....

(first posted on Facebook, 27 May 2010)

DAY 42 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


While on the way home, I saw a old man flying a kite at a field with his grandson and they were having so much fun together. Naturally I thought of you, son. I can never forget the days we used to go to Marina Bay for kite-flying sessions, Even though we were not experienced kite-flyers, but the wind was so strong and that made it pretty easy to have the kite up in the air within seconds. It was really fun...

(first posted on Facebook, 26 May 2010)

DAY 41 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I have come up with a blog dedicated to you : )

Would like to thank all my friends/FB friends for your encouragement and help in the creation of this blog. You are all welcomed to visit it : )

http://parental-alienation-singapore.blogspot.com/

(first posted on Facebook, 25 May 2010)

Friday, May 28, 2010

DAY 40 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Was having a fever the whole day, I need badly something that will being a smile to my face.....here it is. Missing my little drummer boy : )

(first posted on Facebook, 24 May 2010)

DAY 39 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Its almost 5 am now, I could not get back to sleep after being woken up by a prank call. I was just having a dream about the day that we finally meet again, with me, you and mommy are all having another fun outing together at the beach...

"Don't the minutes fly..
the hours just seem so few..
with days apart so long..
its hard to spend my time..
when I'm so far from you..."


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MNcVkaCxQe0&feature=related

I miss you Adriel...I will give my all to be with you again.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 May 2010)

DAY 38 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


I was going thru some of the posts by my FB friends and came acoss this one which really touches my heart.

These verses are beautifully written by auntie Carol Docherty, it says exactly how I feel about you, Adriel.

"I thought of you today, but that is nothing new.
I thought about you yesterday and days before that, too.
I think of you in silence.
I often speak your name.
All I have are memories and pictures in and out of frames.
Your memory is a keepsake, from which will never part.
God has you in his keeping, I have you in my heart."

- Carol Docherty
(Thank you)

(first posted on Facebook, 22 May 2010)

DAY 37 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, today daddy will like to share with everyone a very meaningful picture that speaks a thousand words - all thanks to uncle Daveyone for providing it : )

Its the ugly truth about parents like daddy being easily deprived of our own children.

This picture explains why it is so easy for parents without Care & Control rights to be alienated from their children,

Common tools being used against us are "False Allegations" and "Restraining Orders" (aka PPO in Singapore), both which are endorsable by the Family Court.

The Family Law System in the picture is represented by a thick and merciless brick wall, rather than a door that helps to connect alienated parents and their children.

If anyone thinks that this is an inaccurate portrait of what is going on in reality, you are free to speak up.

first posted on Facebook, 21 May 2010)

DAY 36 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, do you remember uncle Alex (my elder brother)? This is probably the only photo that you were allowed to take with him many years ago.

It's really sad how you were not even allowed to acknowledge him or any of daddy's relatives. That was how the alienation started a long time ago, beginning with uncle Alex, followed by ah gong (granpa), po po (granny), gu gu (my sister), and finally daddy.

I have witnessed with my own eyes the kind of turmoil you had been put through even as a toddler. Whenever there was an "upcoming storm" in our house, daddy would not want to affect you further by getting into an argument, hence I had always endured so as to keep peace in the house..... and I never regret doing it for you.

(first posted on Facebook, 20 May 2010)

DAY 35 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Like most Singaporeans, I am concerned with this news. The terrorism threat is not a joke, it can happen anywhere. In times of danger, no court order can stop me from being there to protect you, son. And I know all the other deprived parents will also do the same for their children.

http://sg.yfittopostblog.com/2010/05/19/orchard-mrt-attack/

Anyway, I know mommy does not like to go to crowded places, so that may be a good thing.... I pray for God's protection and blessings to be upon both of you.

(first posted on Facebook, 19 May 2010)

DAY 34 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, today I met another father who has also been struggling to see his daughter for many months. Like you, the girl was unable to handle her confusion and frustration (as she is being forced into loyalty for only her mother), and so she started displaying sudden hostility towards her father so as to gain approval from the mother.

Without rendering the essential help to the father, the court and counselors concluded that it is in the "best interest of the child" for the father to stay away from his daughter, and they barrred him from visiting her home and her school.

This father who is critically ill, was in tears as he told me how he fears dying one day without even seeing his daughter again and telling her how much she has been loved...

Why are innocent children like you and the girl losing loving parents in our country? I cannot give you an answer son, but I know the authority who can. Sadly they refuse to address this issue, even as more suffering children and parents continue to pour in every single day.

(first posted on Facebook, 18 May 2010)

DAY 33 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


I love all the drawings you do as a toddler, they are so imaginative and lovely, like how you always love to draw houses with 2 chimneys instead of just one, lol.

Here's a sheep you drew at that time. I love it : )

(first posted on Facebook, 17 May 2010)

DAY 32 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, can you remember how old were you during your first visit to the Singapore Zoo?
I can. You were 2 years, 3 months and 19 days old.

Its been almost 10 years but I am still keeping the tram ride ticket.
Its just a piece of paper to some, but I treasure it dearly...

(first posted on Facebook, 16 May 2010)

DAY 31 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Son, this is your favourite activity at Sentosa island - The Luge ride !
You were really fast and so far ahead, daddy could never catch up with you : )

Daddy hopes you'll remember all the good times we had there...
I certainly will.

(first posted on Facebook, 15 May 2010)

DAY 30 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, its been exactly a month since they suspended our access time together. And there is still 5 more months to go before I return to the Family Court for a review... which once again, is going to delay our access time further by more weeks ...or even months...

Son, I hope you will not grow up thinking that I was never present in your life. You know I will always be there for you, even if the law were to punish me for being a father.

But I believe GOD will watch over me and protect me from the evil powers.

"I lift up my eyes to the hills—where does my help come from? My help comes from the LORD, the Maker of heaven and earth.
He will not let your foot slip—he who watches over you will not slumber; indeed, he who watches over Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.
The LORD watches over you—the LORD is your shade at your right hand;
the sun will not harm you by day, nor the moon by night.
The LORD will keep you from all harm—he will watch over your life;
the LORD will watch over your coming and going both now and forevermore."
- Psalm 121


(first posted on Facebook, 14 May 2010)

DAY 29 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, daddy's friend told me that mommy appeared on TV today for winning a huge cash prize from a product lucky draw. If that is true, I just want to thank God for his blessing and I am happy for the both of you : )

Today daddy just want to share this beautiful song from the movie "Chicken Little" which me, you & mommy watched together. The words are really touching and meaningful, especially for us now..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8IanZD91PoY&feature=related

(first posted on Facebook, 13 May 2010)

DAY 28 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I was concerned when I saw this news today. One day you will grow to be a teenager and I am just worried that you may also be embroiled in such unnecessary tussle.

http://sg.yfittopostblog.com/2010/05/12/youth-assaults-schoolmate-in-lift/

One part of this news asks: "Do you know what your kids are up to these days and should parents step up to take more responsibility?"

To that, my answer is : I do not know what my son is up to on any days. But as his father, I strongly believe it is my responsibility to be there for him and to guide him through his crucial growing years.

But how can I even do that when we have family laws that control & forbid contacts between parents and children? Shouldn’t parents be present to set good examples for their children and to protect them from any harm?

Where is the integrity to uphold Famiiy Values in Singapore?

(first posted on Facebook, 12 May 2010)

DAY 27 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


I've always loved going to playgrounds with you, Adriel. But since you've been gone, they have also become places that I try to avoid. However in Singapore, playgrounds are almost everywhere, and I cannot avoid them for long.

So here is daddy, sitting at a playground blowing soap bubbles for you, and wishing you were here with me.

I love you, son.

(first posted on Facebook, 11 May 2010)

Thursday, May 27, 2010

DAY 26 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, like daddy, many other parents in Singapore are also unable to see their children because the Family Court controls or suspends contacts between them.

This not only affects children and parents, it also affects the entire group of relatives and friends whom the children may have lost out forever due to harsh decisions by the Family Court.

But rest assured that we will never give up fighting for all of you.

(first posted on Facebook, 10 May 2010)

DAY 25 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, its mother’s day today and I am sure you must have had a wonderful time celebrating with mommy on her special day. Hope you guys had fun : )

I would also like to take this opportuniy to quote some lines from a friend and send a tribute to all the mommies who have been alienated from their children:

“To all the mommy's out there in the war zone - I know today will be very hard for you. Cry tears of joy because you are blessed to be a Mom and doing something wonderful as a mother of the world right now. I'm proud of you all” - Laura Jayne Love
Battle on all you mommy warriors, God is with you, and so are we.

(first posted on Facebook, 9 May 2010)

DAY 24 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


It really hurts whenever I see other parents taking their children out and having a good time together. Daddy can't help but miss you even more.

Remember the rooftop at Esplanade building? We used to have so much fun running around and playing hide & seek there...

I don't go there anymore, even if I were to be inside the building, I will never want to go to the rooftop. The pain is too much for daddy to bear...

(first posted on Facebook, 8 May 2010)

DAY 23 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Here is a drawing I did to encourage you on your exams 3 years ago. You are taking the PSLE exams this year and daddy knows you need a lot of help, support and guidance in your work.

And if they were to jail a father for trying to be there for his son, so shall it be.

You are my son, and I will go through anything to be there for you.

(first posted on Facebook, 7 May 2010)

DAY 22 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, today daddy tried goggling the exact words "For my son Adriel Cheng" and there are 1,680 results !

Its really amazing how fast our YouTube video has been circulated all over cyperspace!

(first posted on Facebook, 6 May 2010)

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

DAY 21 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, you are always so good at Scrabble that even daddy & mummy could not hold a candle to you.

Here's the score sheet that you had recorded, and just look at your score! You even drew a crown above your name after you had won the challenge : ))

Ths was our last game together almost 2 years ago on 13 Jun 2008, I pray that we will have a chance to play together again soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 5 May 2010)

DAY 20 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, today daddy received an email from a friend congratulating me for our YouTube video hitting the 5,000 views mark!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JiQR5rVboQ

I made this video for you ever since we were deprived of quality time together almost 600 days ago. Even if one day this video is being taken down by whichever authority for whatever reasons they can come out with, I believe it will be reposted on YouTube and other sites by many who know us and feel for us.

This video will stay on YouTube as long as we are still deprived of time together as father and son.

It is a tribute to all the other Singapore and overseas parents who are made victims of Parental Alienation by selfish personnels and authorities who prefer to live in denial and turn a blind eye to our sufferings.

Let’s us keep praying, son. God will make things right for all of us soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 4 May 2010)

Tuesday, May 25, 2010

DAY 19 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, do you still read Geronimo Stilton nowadys? If you are, I am sure you should be looking forward to the next one in the series, #42 "The Peculiar Pumpkin Thief".

I remember whenever we went to Borders or other bookshops, you would sit on ...my lap and ask me to read Geronimo Stiltonton books to you..

Now all daddy has are memories of those times. I want to be there for you so much, but daddy is treated like a prisoner, forbidded by the Family Court of access to you for no good reasons.

But son, no matter what, I will always be there for you 24/7. No authority can ever stop me from being a father to you.

(first posted on Facebook, 3 May 2010)

DAY 18 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, remember that night daddy drove you and mummy out for a stroll at Henderson Bridge area? It was so fun and exciting walking high up on the metallic bridges with all the forest and trees way down below. (see the picture)

That was almost 2 years ago....

Not a day goes by now that I do not think of you. son..

(first posted on Facebook, 2 May 2010)

DAY 17 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, the story of our plight and suffering is all over the internet (below is one of them)

Daddy will never stop fighting to be with you, no fathers will ever stop.

http://daveyonefamilylawmanblogspotcom.socialgo.com/magazine/read/singapore-offensive--world4justice--2010_126.html

(first posted on Facebook, 1 May 2010)

DAY 16 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Remember these 2 "giant" uncles we met during our Church camp in Malaysia with mummy and her relatives? We were always so happy together.

I miss that smile on your face, and I miss being with you, son…..

(first posted on Facebook, 30 April 2010)

DAY 15 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel,
Daddy’s friends often ask me how do I endure the pain of being restricted by our Family Court from seeing you for so many months.

I told them I choose not to dwell in self-pity, but would rather concentrate on doing things that delight myself, and would also bathe in the joy of helping others whenever I can.

But above all, the message in this song is the main reason for all my strength...
(thank you Jesus)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W9boxR3LFYk&feature=related

(first posted on Facebook, 29 April 2010)

DAY 14 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


It's been 2 weeks since I last saw you, Adriel, and daddy had to endure this pain for so many more months before I can ever get a chance to see you again...

Like daddy, many other Singapore parents and millions others all over the world are also suffering in silence day after day without their children by their side.

We are all law-abiding citizens who have done nothing wrong to deserve this suffering. But it's just sad that we are all under the mercy of the Singapore Family Court system that often limits, reduces or totally deprives parents and children of their time together, instead of encouraging and facilitating bonding between them.

But daddy believes we have a GOD who loves us and hears our cries. And I believe He will find a way for all of us suffering parents and children very soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 28 April 2010)

DAY 13 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, today daddy is very thrilled to learn that 2 of my friends from UK, Dave Bound & Mark Jefferis, had written this song called “P.A.S” (Parental Alienation Syndrome), with our plight as an inspiration to the song. They also performed this song on a UK radio show recently.

They even dedicated this song to the both of us – you can see our names at the bottom of this excerpt from the CD booklet.

(first posted on Facebook, 27 April 2010)

DAY 12 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Daveyone, I am really flattered to see this post from you... I am not sure if I have done enough to deserve this, but I am truly honoured. Thank you.

http://media.causes.com/793297?m=&s=cause

This is for you, Adriel : )

(first posted on Facebook, 26 April 2010)

DAY 11 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, today is 25th April, a day known as "Parental Alienation Awareness Day" worldwide.

You may not be able to fully comprehend the significance of this international event, but it means a lot to daddy, as well as millions of parents all around the world who have been unjustly deprived of time with their own children by their family courts.

Its a sad day for them as they come together in remembrance of the good times that they had with their little ones. But its also a day to renew their commitment to fight for their rights to be together.

Rest assured you will always have daddy's commitment.

(first posted on Facebook, 25 April 2010)

DAY 10 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


While riding on the MRT Circle Line today, I was suddenly overcome with sadness as I recall how much you had anticipated the opening of the new MRT stations, but I am unable to even take you out on a ride together...

I miss you every day, son...so badly...

Why does the Family Court have to be so cruel to deprive us of our time together as Father and Son?

(first posted on Facebook, 24 April 2010)

DAY 9 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I saw mummy at Toa Payoh central during lunch today and I was hoping to see you there with her, but then I remember you should be in school.

And then at that moment, for some reasons, this song drifted into my mind...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jSFLZ-MzIhM&NR=1

I remember how we all love this track.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 April 2010)

DAY 8 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I remember how much you love this dish from Din Tai Fung restaurant. You would always eat it with light sauce and many many shreds of ginger, much to my amazement.

We always had so much fun whenever we going out dining as a family.

(first posted on Facebook, 22 April 2010)

DAY 7 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, there must be times when you wonder why you are not allowed to be with daddy, and why it is taking so long for us to spend time together again…

Daddy do not know how to explain to you, or why does the Family Court have to deter us from spending time together as father and son, but I want to assure you that I am willing to lay down my life for you and battle for our rights to be together.

And if anything should ever happen to daddy while in my pursue to be with you, there are many uncles and aunties here on FB who will testify for daddy, that I have always loved you unconditionally all this time.

(first posted on Facebook, 21 April 2010)

DAY 6 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


This has always been one of my favourite photos of yours. It was taken at the open garden in front of our house. In fact, I remember mummy also likes it very much, so much so that she went to have it enlarged at the photo shop.

And I will never forget how you would always have that gorgeous smile on your face whenever you start running around..... : )

(first posted on Facebook, 20 April 2010)

DAY 5 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, although the uncles & aunties from the Singapore Family Court insist on blocking daddy from your life, I promise you that I will never give up my pursue to be with you.

No civilized country should ever have savage laws that deprive parents and children of each other.

(first posted on Facebook, 19 April 2010)

DAY 4 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, daddy dreamt of you again last night...that we were once again playing happily at the Sentosa playground that you like.

The playground may have been demolished now, but I will always remember how much fun we had by looking at this picture...

(first posted on Facebook, 18 April 2010)

DAY 3 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel, I am sure you can recall how much you like Mr Men & Little Miss when you were younger.

I remember me & mummy used to stay up late on the night before one of your birthdays to draw individual pictures of all of them on a piece of paper each, colour all of them, and paste them all over the wall as a birthday surprise for you.

I will never forget the way your face lighted up the next morning when you saw them : )

(first posted on Facebook, 17 April 2010)

DAY 2 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF FROM MY SON by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT) :


Adriel. this was the movie that we last watched together as a family at the theatre.

I remembered you loved it so much that you kept telling me and mummy about all the funny scenes when we were dining at McDonalds after that.

It was really fun that day, I really miss those times we had together..

(first posted on Facebook, 16 April 2010)

DAY 1 (of the 6-MONTH CUT-OFF from my son by the SINGAPORE FAMILY COURT)


You mean the world to me, Adriel.

Things have never been the same since you come into my life.

I will always love you , son

(first posted on Facebook,15 April 2010)