Our 28th access – Denied (22nd January 2011) :

A video depicting the kind of pain we go through as rejected parents. It also gives valuable tips on how to respond to your alienated children and the common mistakes to avoid. Unless under extreme situations, NEVER ever give up on your pursue for your children.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Puy0hjtedU

(First posted on Facebook, 22nd January 2011)

Our 27th access – Denied (21st January 2011) :

“Family institution is fundamental to any country... Fall and the country will fall... Its the building blocks of life and society.” - Mus Karimy

(First posted on Facebook, 21st January 2011)

Our 26th access – Denied (15th January 2011) :

Ls Faun Witt - “Even if they ask the child, the child may be so swayed against the parent from hearing certain messages about the targeted parent that they may THINK they don't want to see that parent. I can teach my children to hate most anything I want. They trust me to do what is right for them so they will side with me if I want them to hate.”

(First posted on Facebook, 15th January 2011)

Our 25th access – Denied (14th January 2011) :

Bruce Shollenberger – “At some later juncture the system places to much emphasis on the children's choice. Of course, an alienated child does not want to upset the alienating parent. The child is fueled with fear, uncertainty, and doubt. Things are easily turned around in a child's mind allowing the selfish and greedy to use them as a weapon against their own best interests. Very very sick.”

(First posted on Facebook, 14th January 2011)

Our 24th access – Denied (8th January 2011) :

Many of us alienated parents can only dream of carrying our children the way Dr Vivian Balakrishnan did in this video with his son.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yNHt6d1HbuU

(First posted on Facebook, 8th January 2011)

Our 23rd access – Denied (7th January 2011) :

"Men should be given fair access to their children by ex-wives. Ex-wives should not use access to children as a bargaining chip for collection of maintenance. I think as adults we should all recognize that children have a right to both parents, and will almost always benefit from access to both parents. And no matter how ugly the dispute between the adults is, we should not make our children hostage or bargaining chips. I'd like to point out that breaches in access orders are punishable as a contempt of court, which may lead to a fine or imprisonment. Just as we expect the men to pay maintenance arrears, women should also comply fully with access orders issued by the court."

- Dr Vivian Balakrishnan, Singapore’s Minister for Community Development, Youth and Sports.(on his closing Speech for the Womens Charter Amendment)

(First posted on Facebook, 7th January 2011)

Our 22nd access – Denied (1st January 2011) :

Here's a very sweet gesture from my FB friend Steve Monk-Dalton: During the recent activity of parents lighting up lanterns for their alienated children, Steve has lighted this one for me with my son's name on it. Thank you so much, Steve, that really means a lot to me..
2011 is here, we should waste no time to rise up for our children and grant them back their well-deserved rights to enjoy the love & presence of both parents in their lives. A change is gonna come, its time to end all the sorrows and heartbreaks.
Adriel, daddy will be coming for you - from all directions.

(First posted on Facebook, 1st January 2011)

Our 21st access – Denied (31st December 2010) :

Adriel, here's a cute picture of both of us as panda bears, drawn by one of daddy's Facebook friends. I really like it very much because it represents the happy moments we have together.... and I have faith this day will come again soon, because we have God almighty on our side (Romans 8:31)

(First posted on Facebook, 31st December 2010)

Our 20th access – Denied (25th December 2010) :

It was a lonely Christmas without my son. Though I did not get the best Christmas gift (to be with Adriel), I thank God for the newspaper article was published on Christmas Eve as it has helped to raise public awareness on this injustice on many parents and innocent children.

2010 has been a tough year for many of us target parents, but we are blessed to have so many people here on FB praying for us & cheering us on. I believe God put us through these trials for a reason; besides fighting to be with our children, we have the responsibility to highlight this Parental Alienation issue to the masses. It is an emotional child abuse to use children as pawns to deprive them of one of their parents, no child should be made to go through this mental torture.

Lets continue to fight against this child abuse in 2011, our children deserve better

(First posted on Facebook, 25th December 2010)

Our 19th access – Denied (24th December 2010) :

Adriel, Christmas is here again, & daddy must admit its tough for me & many other parents who can't be with their children. But today I overheard this song below with the words “There was always Christmas time, JESUS came to stay” & I was reminded of the true meaning of the season: Jesus is the way, & we can do all things through Him!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3Hbwa00VEMc&feature=related

Love & Miss u, Merry Christmas!

(First posted on Facebook, 24th December 2010)

Our 18th access – Denied (18th December 2010) :

Adriel, u are a kind boy with a gentle soul, & daddy will always remember Galatians 5:22-23 is one of yr fav Bible verses. That is also why I put it at the end of this video I made for u : )
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness & self-control. Against such things there is no law” - Galatians 5:22-23

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-JiQR5rVboQ

(First posted on Facebook, 18th December 2010)

Our 17th access – Denied (17th December 2010) :

Adriel, these new animated movies always remind me of you as I remember how much fun we had watching Kungfu Panda, Madagascar, Chicken Little, Horton The Elephant, Over The Hedge etc together with mommy.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ALhY-jeXC50&feature=related

I pray that God will watch over you everyday, and also for the hearts of those to be softened so that we will see each other again soon. I miss you badly son..

(First posted on Facebook, 17th December 2010)

Our 16th access – Denied (11th December 2010) :

Adriel, though we have been deprived of access and contacts for many weeks, daddy has not given up trying to reach you.

Like all alienated children, I know you have been compelled and influenced to stop displaying any affection for daddy and all my relatives. But I have never stopped praying for hearts to be softened.. and rest assured that daddy will always be here for you.

I thank God for friends who are praying for us and cheering us on here on Facebook. And I know they would love to have you here with us one day, son : )

(First posted on Facebook, 11th December 2010)

Our 15th access – Denied (10th December 2010) :

Adriel, in about 2 weeks Christmas will be here. It is a time for giving and sharing but daddy knows I will once again be denied from seeing you. It will be a 3rd Christmas without you but that will not deter me from praying and keeping the faith. We have a God who hears our cries and He will answer our prayers. I love and miss you very much, son... Merry Christmas : )

(First posted on Facebook, 10th December 2010)

Our 14th access – Denied (4th December 2010) :

Adriel, besides Road Runner, daddy remembers Tom and Jerry is also one of your favourite cartoons when you were younger, as well as Popeye and Tweety Bird.
I miss watching them on TV together with you...

(First posted on Facebook, 4th December 2010)

Our 13th access – Denied (3rd December 2010) :

Here's a video made by another parent who had also been deprived of his child. Please join me and pray for these parents all around the world who have been longing to see their children but have been unable to do so. God hears our cries..

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_6OVKIXMQP4

(First posted on Facebook, 3rd December 2010)

Our 12th access – Denied (27th November 2010) :

Adriel, daddy had a dream about you again last night. I dreamed that I was in your school and I was happy that you did not avoid me. But you were worried about the trouble you will get into if you are seen responding to me. I gave you a big hug and assured you that things will be all right, and there is absolutely nothing wrong for a dad and son to spend time together as God has intended.
Love is from God, and our love will conquer all : )

(First posted on Facebook, 27 November 2010)

Our 11th access – Denied (26th November 2010) :

Congrats on your PSLE results Adriel, daddy is so proud of you! I had wanted to take you out for a celebration, but once again I could not reach you. Daddy will do everything within my means to reunite us again, regardless of how others might think or say otherwise. You deserve your daddy in your life like any other child.
Love and miss you very much, son : )

(First posted on Facebook, 26 November 2010)

Our 10th access – Denied (20th November 2010) :

A target parent once wrote : “When alienators use your child as a pawn to deprive you, it affects you and you struggle to survive, like how you gasp for air when out of breath. Your 'struggling' actions will then be misintepreted by others as you are ‘stubbornly insisting in your ways’ to see your child, and that your ‘aggressiveness are only making things worse’. And when you hear well-meaning people asking you to ‘let it go, for the sake of your child’, you know the alienators have achieved their goals of indirectly using others to discourage you and undermine your parenting role. Alienators are being given the empowerment to cause severe damage to the relationships with your child, as well as to brainwash and influence ANYONE to make you give up, including the courts and those around you.”

(First posted on Facebook, 20 November 2010)

Our 9th access – Denied (19th November 2010) :

Otilia Ayala (a FB friend) : “I just woke up from a dream, about Adriel your son, we were traveling, and I gave him a big hug and told him ‘This is from your dad, he loves u’, He said ‘I know’ and started to cry..
In this dream I was a worker transporting kids. I asked your son what he wanted to drink? He said milk in a bottle. A dream I needed to tell u.
As a native american we believe dreams are visions & messages from God. I will pray that God moves the hearts of the workers in your case. God bless u and Adriel."

(First posted on Facebook, 19 November 2010)

Our 8th access – Denied (13th November 2010)

"The only way for evil to flourish is for good men to do nothing." - Edmund Burke

(First posted on Facebook, 13 November 2010)

Our 7th access – Denied (12th November 2010)

"The limits of tyrants are prescribed by the endurance of those whom they oppress.” ~ Frederick Douglass

(First posted on Facebook, 12 November 2010)

Our 6th access – Denied (6th November 2010)

Adriel, you may not be aware now, but soon you'll know we are really blessed to have so many people all around the world and in Singapore supporting us and praying for us to be together again.
I hope the authorities will also give us their much needed support.

(first posted on Facebook, 6 November 2010)

Our 5th access – Denied (5th November 2010)

Happy Birthday to you, Adriel. I am sorry we could not spend time together. Daddy did everything I can to reach out to you on your special day, and I waited for many hours for you to return home, but you were nowhere to be found..

No one can stop me from being a dad to you. I promise you that the day we go out together again will be a day filled with so much fun, like a belated birthday celebration that you will never forget. Many of daddy's friends here on FB are also wishing you a happy birthday, you are loved by so many of us, son..

(first posted on Facebook, 5 November 2010)

Happy 12th Birthday Adriel ! : )

Adriel, here's some pictures of you celebrating your previous birthdays with your classmates and friends.

Have a great 12th birthday this year, I hope to see you later, son.

Love,

Dad

Our 4th Access - DENIED (30 Oct 2010)

Adriel, I know you have been put through another tough day. It pains me that you were being treated by others so cruelly and deprived of your freewill to love even your own father..
I vow to go through anything to fight for you...and I mean anything. Whatever happens to daddy, remember that I have never given up on you. You made my life worth living, son, I can never ask God for more.

(first posted on Facebook, 30 October 2010)

Our 3rd Access - DENIED (29 Oct 2010)

Adriel, regardless of what others make you to do or say, daddy will never leave you, son. Anyone trying to separate us will just be wasting their time, they obviously do not understand the intensity of a bond between a father and a son.

(first posted on Facebook, 29 October 2010)

Our 2nd Access - DENIED (23 Oct 2010)

Adriel, today I was once again told that your "answer is still no". Its nothing new to daddy as I have heard it all before in the past, but yet after telling me that, we were still able to play together happily at playgrounds, outdoors and go on many other outings.
I was there during the first 9 years of your life, and daddy knows it when you really mean what you say and when you do not. I would have walked away by myself if you truly have no love for me, I do not even need to be told by anyone. But I am still here, and you know the reason, son.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 October 2010)

Our 1st Access - DENIED (22 Oct 2010)

Adriel, God knows how much I have been longing for this day. But when I was told that you “refuses to see me”, I was devastated, not because of what you said, but because I know that implies that I will not be able to see you. Daddy is aware of what you have been put through, and I know what your actual choice would be had you been given the freewill to choose. Love you always, son..

(first posted on Facebook, 22 October 2010)

DAY 182 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, I know you have been placed in a difficult position forbidding you to display any affections for daddy, but do not fear and do not worry my son, daddy knows you have no part in this entire hating campaign. You are my son and daddy can see your deepest and truest emotions through your eyes. Daddy knows what you really long for, I sense all your purest happiness and joy whenever you spend time with me and mommy. That is what they have robbed from your innocent life, and that is also what I will fight to get back for you. Others may try to tear me away from your life, but rest assured that they will not stand a chance. Your daddy is a fighter and he will keep battling to be with you, regardless of the price he has to pay.

These 6 months have been tough for the both of us, but I thank God for the strength and also for all the awesome friends and support I get from Facebook in my pursue to be with you. And I am afraid I have bad news for those who hope that this 6 months blockage will make me give up and walk away, because I am still here, stronger than before, and battling harder than ever for my son.

I love and miss you very much, my son...we will meet again...soon.

(first posted on Facebook, 13 October 2010)

DAY 181 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

“Between parent and child there is a bridge, which neither time nor death can shatter; each stands at one end, needing to cross, and meet."

(first posted on Facebook, 12 October 2010)

DAY 180 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

This movie trailer shows what happens when a target parent tries to pick up the children, and how the Alienator can easily sabotage things and instigate an argument.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=49B2_tcNbRs

It portrays these facts accurately -

1. The Alienator and the allies will always claim that the children do not wish to go out with the target parent. To them, the Court Order is "just a piece of paper".

2. The target parent is being denied and deprived of time with the children without any valid reasons. Any attempts to reason things with the Alienator will be considered as creating trouble.

3. The children will echo the exact words the Alienator says or wants them to say, without any logic or valid explanations.

4. The Alienator always acts like a victim needing protection, but is in fact playing with the emotions of others (the children, relatives, friends, court, schools etc), so as to turn them against the ex-spouse at all costs.

(first posted on Facebook, 11 October 2010)

DAY 179 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

The PSLE exams ended today, I wish to express my heartfelt gratitude to all my FB friends for your kind wishes and prayers for my son.

Adriel, now that your exams are over, rest assured that daddy will continue to pursue for our rights to be together. That day will come soon : )

(first posted on Facebook, 10 October 2010)

DAY 178 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Here's a photo of you at grandma's house some years ago. Daddy has not seen you for half a year now... I wonder how much taller you had grown : )

(first posted on Facebook, 9 October 2010)

DAY 177 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, this is the beansprout plant that you grew for your school project some years ago, I took a picture of it partly because I thought it looked nice with the toy car beside it, but most of all, I am always proud of all your "masterpieces" : )

(first posted on Facebook, 8 October 2010)

DAY 176 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, this is your favourite scene from "Bruce Almighty", it really made you, me and mommy laugh non-stop watching it. I got the DVD just for you and I remember one evening as I was about to play it, you told me "Dad dad, you are really going to made me laugh a lot again with this one!"... I will never forget those special moments, son : )

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jnm079stw68&feature=related

(first posted on Facebook, 7 October 2010)

DAY 175 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Still praying for your PSLE exams, son. I tried to draw your favourite Mr Men lookalike when I did this drawing for you during your exams many years ago. I have posted it before but I want to repost it again now.

You can do it, Adriel! Daddy is proud of you : )

(first posted on Facebook, 6 October 2010)

DAY 174 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

At this time of your PSLE exams son, rest assured that you have all my love, support and prayers, as well as many more well-wishes and prayers coming from daddy's FB friends from Singapore and all over the world : )

And I also wish to take this opportunity to share this beautiful poem written by my FB friend Paulette MacDonald for her alienated step children -

LOVE IS FOR EVERYONE!
(Inspired by a page from Jessie’s Diary - see picture)

My Love for you both
I declare to be true.
For loving you both
Is all I ever wanted to do.

And now, an ocean of lies,
Keeps us apart.
But my love never wavers,
You’re deep in my heart.

I pray one day soon,
The courts will wake up.
Until that day comes,
We must never give up.

With every beat of my heart,
I’ll shout out your names.
And I’ll ask the courts,
Are you completely Insane?

For you are not to blame
For this alienation,
The courts have allowed
to sweep through our nation.

I pray for you both,
To be brave and strong.
And to know in your hearts,
You have done nothing wrong.

For the day will come,
When truth will prevail.
And the courts will know
That they have failed.

And when that day comes
You both shall see,
For I have faith in you and me.

And we will show the courts,
That we were meant to be-
Forever and Always
A “Happy” family.

And I will declare to the courts,
And the whole world to see
That
“Love is for everyone!”
Especially you & me.

I will Always, Always
Love you both
Out Loud!
Paulette
Xox

(first posted on Facebook, 5 October 2010)

DAY 173 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

"When people fear the government, thats Tyranny. But when the government fears the people, that is Liberty."
- Senator Nancy Schaefer, who exposed CPS as a child kidnapping ring, and who was murdered in her home.

"THE CHILD" - coming in November 2010.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-9rksEZjLY&feature=related

(first posted on Facebook, 4 October 2010)

DAY 172 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, I have always enjoyed playing with you at playgrounds. Too bad we do not have a chance to play together on this suspension bridge which is located just below grandma's flat at Serangoon Ave 4 where you are staying now... or perhaps you have already moved to another address, I am not sure. I really hope to know your whereabouts, son..

(first posted on Facebook, 3 October 2010)

DAY 171 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

A rather blurry picture of us sharing a ride on the Luge at Sentosa many years ago when you were still quite young. The Luge ride was definitely your favourite activity there. As you grew older you became really good at it and soon your old man was trailing behind you.

Its been more than 2 years since we went to Sentosa together, I wonder how fast are you now. : )

(first posted on Facebook, 2 October 2010)

DAY 170 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Here's the promo trailer for the powerful documentary film, "THE CHILD" coming in November 2010.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ul6Eod0j8Q4&feature=related

Parental Rights are GOD given, no one should meddle with that and go against GOD's will. There will be consequences for attempting to play God..

(first posted on Facebook, 1 October 2010)

DAY 169 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Happy Children's Day, Adriel ! : )

This is the last time that you are celebrating this occasion, as you will be a young teenager next year. Though I am still being disallowed from seeing you, God knows how much I want to spend this day with you, son.

This song is for all the children whose parents are being restricted or blocked by the authorities from being with them. Children, always know that both your dads and mums love you equally, and that would remain unchanged no matter what obstacles are being put in their way.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xtSbedMeF6s&feature=related

(first posted on Facebook, 30 September 2010)

DAY 168 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Me and mommy threw a party for you at Rasa Sentosa Resort Hotel on your 8th birthday and many of your classmates were there to celebrate with you. You boys had so much fun playing that day : )
Other than riding in cars, I know you love hotel stays, and Daddy would always do my best to book hotel stays at Rasa Sentosa, Ritz Carlton, Westin Stamford, Pan Pacific, Traders etc, so that the 3 of us can spend quality time together.

(first posted on Facebook, 29 September 2010)

DAY 167 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Lol..this was you being very amazed to find such a huge pumpkin at the Tanglin Mall supermarket some years ago. I remember the 3 of us all love to do supermarket shopping, and you are always playing with the cart : )

(first posted on Facebook, 28 September 2010)

DAY 166 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

“I have not cried for awhile Cheng. I held back my tears for fear that the court would judge me as ‘crazy’ and make it worse.They are always looking for something to judge and scrutunize me over, even the slightest cry... for help is crushed. Yesterday I had a very bad day in court. And today, seeing your comment finally got me to cry and get those tears out. I know how you feel. I love to teach my children too, that is one thing that good parents do. And it does show me that you are a good dad and that you do want the best for your children. My heart goes out to you because I know that children thrive better when they are allowed to see their loving parents. And thank you, because I needed to cry. I do not understand why anybody would do this to us or our children. I hope to God that they stop this inhumane torture of the innocents”
- Renea J Chafe, my friend from Deerfield Beach, FL.

(first posted on Facebook, 27 September 2010)

DAY 165 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, I am sure you can recognise these stickers. Mommy pasted them on the bathroom wall to make your bath time more fun. That was many years ago.

(first posted on Facebook, 26 September 2010)

DAY 164 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

This letter was published a few days ago on The Straits Times forum.

The writer asked what is being done to address the on-going issue of parents violating court orders granting their ex-spouses access to their children.

I'm not sure if the authority will reply, but it is shocking to see Court Order papers being treated like Toilet papers by errant parents who continue to cut off their children from contacts with their ex-spouses without any accountability.

With the majority of parents with Care & Control being mothers, it will be really sad to see the authority bowing down to women's groups and allowing the oppressions to continue. The authority have the moral obligation to help the children maintain proper and regular contacts with both their parents. This is their basic rights as Singapore children.

(first posted on Facebook, 25 September 2010)

DAY 163 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

A recent BBC news, where Sir Nicholas Wall, president of the Family Division of the High Court has warned that separating parents can do their children enormous harm by using them as a "battlefield" and "ammunition".

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/education-11380470

Some quotes by Sir Nicholas -

"Parents simply do not realise the damage they do to their children by the battles they wage over them."

"A child was not a piece of property which can be parcelled up and moved around at will."

"Parents often found it difficult to understand that children loved and had a loyalty to both parents."

"There is nothing worse, for most children, than for their parents to denigrate each other."

"If a child's mother makes it clear to the child that his or her father is worthless - and vice versa - the child's sense of self-worth can be irredeemably damaged."

"...Parliament rather than judges should decide whether shared parenting orders - where children live with each parent at different times - were to become the norm over children living with one parent and having regular contact with the other."

"...the separated parent's role in the lives of his or her children retains the same degree of importance as when the parents were living together..."

"Children do better in every way if they have two parents in their lives, and the children of separated families are no exception." - Craig Pickering from Families Need Fathers

(first posted on Facebook, 24 September 2010)

DAY 162 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Remember this green car, Adriel? Though Daddy cannot afford a car, I know you love to travel in cars, so I did my best to rent a car every weekend and take you and mommy out on outings to many places all over Singapore. I know those were your favourite times as I could sense your joy and happiness. And that means everything to me.

(first posted on Facebook, 23 September 2010)

DAY 161 (of the 6-month cut-off from my son by the Singapore Family Court without any valid reasons) :

Adriel, remember this 2006 Vacation Bible School poster featurng you in the middle? (you were dressed in blue, standing beside the boy in white).
You are such a special boy to many of us, and daddy is so proud of you : )

(first posted on Facebook, 22 September 2010)